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How I Use the Law of Sacrifice… The Unstoppable Blueprint!

By Amira Alvarez Living by The Laws of Success has allowed me to make several quantum leaps in my income over the years, and is so essential when you’re going for MORE in your life and business. But what are The Laws of Success?! These are the Universal Laws that govern how life…
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Living by The Laws of Success has allowed me to make several quantum leaps in my income over the years, and is so essential when you’re going for MORE in your life and business.

But what are The Laws of Success?!

These are the Universal Laws that govern how life works. If you want to create a successful life, it behooves you to understand them and work your life according to Law. It’s so much easier that way. ;-) They exist, just like the Law of Gravity exists. Even if you don’t believe in gravity, it’s still working… you’re not drifting away to the moon because you are here on Earth and we have gravity. Gravity is the law whether you understand it or not.

It happens, it exists, it’s there… 100% of the time. You are never without the experience of gravity, even if you don’t understand the mechanism behind how gravity works. 

This is the case with the Universal Laws. They’re working all the time, but most of us were never given any understanding of it, so life became mysterious and we never really understood how it worked… making up our own interpretations and strategies as we went! But once you get a foundational understanding of what the Laws of Success are, you can create your life to work with them instead of swimming upstream against them. 

This is part of how you start living with ease and grace… how you start living in such a way where you start experiencing ease and abundance in your life, without all the noise, the challenges, and the crazymaking. You understand how the world works and then start making conscious choices to be in alignment with that instead of working at counter purposes.

In today’s Unstoppable Blueprint, I want to speak to one of these Laws and how I’ve used it to create incredible quantum leaps in my life and business over the years!

 

The Law of Sacrifice

In order to have more, we have to become more. We can’t stay at the same level of awareness, skills, capacity, or mindset… growth requires that something changes, which means letting go of the things that no longer work and bringing in more of the things that do work. 

The Law of Sacrifice says that you have to give up something of a lower nature to receive something of a higher nature. 

This can look like many things:

  • Leaving a relationship that’s no longer aligned. Sometimes that’s a romantic partnership, sometimes that’s friendships, sometimes it’s a work association and sometimes, yes, that’s family… whatever the case, the relationship is no longer supporting your highest good. It detracts from your ability to grow and live out your full potential. Recognizing that you must sacrifice a relationship is not about making someone else wrong, it’s about choosing to surround yourself with people who are a vibrational match—both for where you’re at as well as where you’re trying to go!
  • Replacing systems, software, or team at the next level. The more you grow, the better support you need in BOTH your life and business. That may mean replacing team members or upgrading the software and hardware you use. Or, in some cases, it means hiring in the first place! Going from doing all the housework yourself to hiring a personal assistant, cleaning person, or gardener! Sacrificing the thing of a lower nature in this regard often means sacrificing something or someone that isn’t operating efficiently or is taking more energy than it’s worth… when you replace it with something or someone of a higher nature, you free up more time and energy!
  • Tossing all your ratty old bras and underwear. Yep, I said it. This might be clothing, shoes, home decor, your bedspread, or any other material items that aren’t of a higher vibrational nature. You don’t have to toss (or donate or recycle) everything at once if it’s not financially viable, but the items we surround ourselves with, the things we wear, and the home we live in has an impact on our vibrational level and how we feel!! If you’re trying to show up on a whole new level and attract higher-paying clients, that next level partnership, or more visibility opportunities, but you’re wearing holey underwear from 2005, you’re not going to be showing up as fully aligned as you need to be. ;-)
  • Letting go of outdated or limiting beliefs. Oftentimes we continue tolerating things of a lower nature because of our belief systems in place. We don’t believe we’re ready, deserving, good enough, etc. to have bigger and better… or we have beliefs like “people who make a lot of money are evil and greedy” that keep us caught in a double bind. No matter how hard we work at making more, we’ll sabotage our success because of that deeper belief or story!! You have to identify and let go of those old and outdated beliefs or stories about yourself, other people, and how the world works and replace them with a new belief structure that SUPPORTS what you’re working to create.
  • Choosing new ways of spending your time and money. These are big ones. You can tell what your values are by looking at your calendar and your bank statement. If you’re saying you don’t have enough time… then look at your calendar and see what people, places, or experiences you’re spending time on that needs to be sacrificed to make room for something of a higher nature like education, attending a live event, joining a mastermind, or taking a program to uplevel your business. Same thing with money. Can’t afford any of those things? Look at how you’re spending your money every month and what can be sacrificed in order to invest in bigger and better ways… AND, in the things that will help you have MORE TIME and make MORE MONEY!!
  • Adjusting your expectations. What are you expecting to happen? Are you expecting that you will get what you desire? Or are you expecting it to be a struggle? Oftentimes we hold subconscious expectations that derail our progress and cause us to stop or self-sabotage. If you’re holding an expectation of something being a struggle, that’s something you’re going to have to sacrifice in order to create new results.
  • Changing your thoughts. What are the thoughts that are running on a loop in your mind day after day, and are they productive? Do they help move you in the direction of where you want to go, or do they hold you back? It’s important to bring awareness to your thoughts so that you can STOP THINKING ones that aren’t helpful or productive… for example, if you’re always thinking things like, “I’m so busy, I don’t have enough time, I’ll never get it done” then that’s the reality you’re going to create. Instead, release those thoughts and choose better ones, such as “I get all things done with ease and grace.”This also ties into visualization. What are you envisioning throughout the day? When you daydream or when you imagine things happening or not happening? What are the mental images that take up a majority of your thoughts? What do you need to be visualizing in order to create the outcomes you desire??

The key with The Law of Sacrifice is… what are you going to replace it with? Nature abhors a vacuum, which means that if you remove something from your life and you’re not clear that you’re replacing it with something of a higher nature, you’re likely going to fill that space with the old beliefs, things, people, and ways of being. 

You have to decide what you’re replacing it with and act on that immediately and consistently so that you don’t go back to how things were before! 

Where I’ve had to live in alignment with The Law of Sacrifice in my own life and business…

I want to share a few real-life examples of how I live in alignment with this Law myself, because it can be incredibly nuanced and require a lot of discernment.

  • Ending my marriage. Oy! This was a BIG ONE and something that I get asked about A LOT. I spent some serious stage time at the last Unstoppable Woman Summit speaking to this and I feel it’s important to share about it because women often worry that growing into more might mean they have to leave their partner. The truth is… you might! But then again… you may not. There’s no “one size fits all” for this. For me, as I grew into more, let go of certain tolerations and beliefs, and began upleveling different aspects of my life and becoming the woman I wanted to be, it became apparent that my ex-husband and I weren’t on the same page. That didn’t mean he was wrong or I was wrong, it just meant that we were no longer able to grow together. There are also many examples of women who are able to grow into more WITH their partners, it just depends on the relationship and the parties involved. Real talk: this was the BEST decision for us BOTH. We had lots of positive discussion around it and were able to move forward with separating very amicably!! I needed to sacrifice my marriage in order to create the life I wanted, build my business how I envisioned, and step into a far more fulfilling and aligned partnership (AND start having the best sex of my life!!!) That said, I am not advocating divorce as some sort of relationship panacea.
  • Letting go of the wrong hires. Over the years I’ve had several experiences of hiring the wrong people… whether that’s contractors, agencies, or employees. For example, last year we brought on a Marketing Manager that we were stoked about!! The energy seemed aligned, all the boxes were checked, and it seemed like it was going to go swimmingly!! But, almost immediately I began seeing signs that it wasn’t going to work out. Little cues here and there. But, instead of letting the person go, I kept giving the benefit of the doubt. The reality is, I needed to sacrifice a way of being: second guessing myself and my intuition. I knew almost immediately that it wasn’t going to work, yet I wanted it to work SO badly that I kept this person on for a few more weeks longer than I needed to!
  • Releasing my automatic shame response. This is a biggie with so many women… feeling shame around being wrong or bad, not being good/smart/whatever enough, or making mistakes and getting things wrong. It becomes so insidious that we don’t even see the shame or how it causes us to STOP going after what we want! And it’s a very nuanced thing to work on. I’ve been releasing my automatic shame responses in layers over the years… the more I grow, the more layers come up to work through. It’s a great example of how sometimes the Law of Sacrifice is a process that requires persistence and practice over time. We have to make a new choice over and over again that “no, that’s not me anymore.” Replacing it with a new belief structure that declares resolutely, “this is who I am now.”When it comes to replacing belief structures or shame responses and core wounding, there’s a very important distinction to make… many people poo-poo affirmations because they believe it’s like telling yourself a lie. But really, affirmations work when we’ve excised the big lie (limiting belief, fear, shame, old way of being) so that when you say the affirmation (“I’m worthy”) it has someplace to land and take root.
  • Looking at the RESULTS. I do this with myself and with my clients. If I say I want something and I’m not getting the result I desire, then I have to take an honest look at what’s missing. Is it a different set of beliefs? Is it a new way of being? Is it a new action? Or is it that I’m not supported by the right people, systems, or processes? Do I need to invest my money in a different way or restructure how I spend my time? Looking at the gap in your results will show you what you need to sacrifice… again, the key is knowing what you’re going to replace it with so that you don’t fall back into old habits and patterns!!

 

Ready to learn the 7 Universal Laws and how to apply them to your life and business?

Join me in The Spirit of Wealth Mastermind and Masterclass for 2020!! We have just a few spots remaining and this is the LAST WEEK to sign up. 

When you’re really going for it… building your empire, defining your destiny, and playing a much bigger game… you must bring ALL of yourself, your greatness and your creative power, to the table and not back down. You must take new and different actions, think more productive thoughts, and create a belief structure that’s fully aligned with where you’re going.

You have to constantly step into places, spaces, relationships, experiences, and ways of being of a higher nature… which means discerning when and what you need to sacrifice and getting the support and accountability you need to see it through. Otherwise, you’re limiting yourself… and limiting the full expression of who you really are directly limits your ability to quantum leap your income and your life. It keeps you trapped in fear, going slow, and making incremental progress.

That’s not what I want for you. :-)

Learn more about The Spirit of Wealth or book a call with me to see if it’s the right fit for you and your 2020 vision!

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The questions I ask to set my vision.

By Amira Alvarez Do you have a vision for an extraordinary 2020?  I do! :)  Every year during this quiet time, I cozy up and do my visioning.  I ask myself, what do I really want my life to be like? I dream it up. I see it. I envision it. Most importantly,…
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Do you have a vision for an extraordinary 2020? 

I do! :) 

Every year during this quiet time, I cozy up and do my visioning. 

I ask myself, what do I really want my life to be like?

I dream it up. I see it. I envision it.

Most importantly, I feel into it.

But it doesn’t stop there.

I ask myself… the next level questions as well… 

What would I need to do to make all of that manifest?

What would I need to bring into my life to aid in that?

Who would I need to be?

How would I need to show up?

What would I need to invest in?

What would have to change?

What new environment would I need to be in? 

What would I need to learn?

What kinds of people would I need to surround myself with?

What kind of help do I need?

What new decisions do I need to make? 

What am I going to do that scares and stretches me?

And… How am I going to step into being worthy of what all that I desire?

I encourage you to sit down and answer those questions for yourself. You’ll be surprised by how clear you get and what this sets in motion.

But this is just the beginning. :)

You must program yourself for success and yet most people don’t know how to do that.

Most people set goals and resolutions but then go back to re-creating basically the same thing again and again, year after year. 

It’s not that they aren’t smart enough or dedicated enough. 

It’s that they don’t understand how the mind works and they haven’t programmed themselves for success. This is what sabotages goal achievement.

That’s why I created an entire program and playbook on Belief Reprogramming and Closing the Gap on Goal Achievement and am giving it to the women in The Spirit of Wealth Mastermind. 

Not only does this program take them through step-by-step how to reprogram their mind for success, but we’re going to support them for an entire year in the Spirit of Wealth so that they actually execute on their goals and achieve more in one year than they do in 10! We’re calling this the 10 in 1 plan – watch out world! These women are going to slay!

Curious about this year-long program? Ready for your greatest life and greatest income?

If it’s time to make 2020 the year you make your quantum leap, enrollment is open now and we have a handful of spots left. Don’t miss out.

https://theunstoppablewoman.com/spirit-of-wealth/

My biggest reflection from this decade…

By Amira Alvarez As we enter into this next decade, I was reflecting on the enormous changes that have occurred in my life in the last decade.  Yes, I took a business from zero to over a million. But what I’m really proud of is how much happier I am now. Nope, I’m…
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As we enter into this next decade, I was reflecting on the enormous changes that have occurred in my life in the last decade. 

Yes, I took a business from zero to over a million.

But what I’m really proud of is how much happier I am now.

Nope, I’m not equating money with happiness. 

Not at all.

You can be rich and miserable and you can be poor and miserable. Or you can be rich and happy or poor and happy. It has little to do with money.

I personally prefer rich and happy. ;-)

For me, the building of my business was the container through which I did my personal growth work and got to the fulfillment I now feel. The process challenged the f*%! out of me and it brought all my stuff to the surface.

In some ways, I knew that I couldn’t hide or distract myself any longer if I was really going to break through and get to the next level.

In order for me to succeed and to stop sabotaging myself, I had to bring truth to the dark underbelly of my life… the shadow side, the parts I wanted to ignore, hide from, heck… run from. 

That was the stuff that would rear up, wreak chaos, and then dissipate again so I could conveniently ignore it until I couldn’t and it would rear up again. It was on repeat, like that Bill Murray movie Groundhog Day, and was keeping me stuck at the same level whether I wanted to admit it or not.

Ultimately, I decided my goals and my happiness were worth it and I couldn’t keep playing out the same story again and again for another year or another decade.

I would pay anything and do anything (within my ethics) to get the help I needed to breakthrough. I did just that and I looked in all the dark corners, at every thought and pattern, at all my beliefs and anything that was stopping me from taking action on the life that I actually wanted because I wanted the results… the quantifiable business success, but also the happiness… badly enough. 

I was willing to do the inner work on myself and take the outer game action. It wasn’t always easy in the moment, to say the least. In fact, it’s never easy in the moment because that’s where the growth is and you must embrace it. 

When you do, you will look back at all that you’ve accomplished and all that you’ve become and you will be proud and feel worthy of the results that you now have. 

You will also look back at what was once hard for you and realize that it is now easy. ;-) 

I wouldn’t trade the challenges and the growth for anything. The results have been extraordinary and so worth it. 

So, as we enter into 2020 and this new decade that’s full of hope and possibility, ask yourself… what do you want badly enough to really do the work for?

Then go make it happen for yourself!

Wishing you a very Happy New Year and the best for the upcoming decade.

The Power of Choice

By Amira Alvarez Choice. It's the greatest power we have as humans. You have it. I have it. We all have it. But often we forget that we have choice because we're running on autopilot. We forget that every reaction can be a choice. Case in point... Recently on a training call, my…
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Choice. It’s the greatest power we have as humans.

You have it. I have it. We all have it.

But often we forget that we have choice because we’re running on autopilot.

We forget that every reaction can be a choice.

Case in point…

Recently on a training call, my audio didn’t work. WTF, right? I’ve used this service before. Why did this problem just arise? Hmmmm…

But instead of going down that rabbit hole and freaking out, I quickly walked downstairs and got my phone and headset, went back to my office, dialed in as a guest, and started the call.

  • No panic.
  • No freakout.
  • Just a huge amount of gratitude to my assistant for holding down the fort while it was happening.

This was a choice.

Because freaking out doesn’t serve me or you in times like this. That would take me out of my power and distract me from providing a great teaching. And that is ultimately not of service to anyone.

And being bitter or disappointed about it afterward?
Also a choice and an absolute waste of my energy.

So I CHOOSE to laugh instead and roll with it, which I consider a much better plan. Keeps one’s energy positive and the momentum going. (This isn’t to say I haven’t thought about what we could do differently next time.)

It also allows me to refocus and get back to the business of running my company quicker. Closing this gap is critical.

If you’re spinning out, you’re losing valuable time and wasting your valuable mental resources and this dramatically slows down your business growth.

Use your power of choice to decide at every moment how to react and make sure it serves you and your business.

You have the power to choose.
Start using it consciously and consistently.

Amira

Does Energetic Work Get Easier?

By Amira Alvarez Have you ever said to yourself, "Please tell me that this inner energetic work gets easier so I can just get on with making bank from all my brilliant ideas"? Yes? I used to say that too. I was committed to my personal growth and doing what it took to…
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Have you ever said to yourself, “Please tell me that this inner energetic work gets easier so I can just get on with making bank from all my brilliant ideas”?

Yes?

I used to say that too. I was committed to my personal growth and doing what it took to show up as an unstoppable woman in business but quite honestly… I was tired of the emotional roller coaster that came with doing the deep transformational work.

The truth is it took me many years of working on my core limiting beliefs. Then one day I realized I was done with needing the deeper energetic, transformational work. Sure, things still come up occasionally, but they don’t linger and it’s not a rollercoaster of emotions because I know how to move through it. I don’t get thrown for a loop like I used to.

In fact, when shizz comes up, I embrace it. I move toward it.

It’s my growth edge and I always want to be growing.

So what changed for me?

As I said, I did lots of transformational work on myself.
That was really important and foundational.

But the real lynchpin was when I DECIDED I wasn’t going to indulge ANY thoughts that caused me to spin out and become unproductive or unfocused. I made the CHOICE to have zero tolerance for any of that.

(Scroll down below this post to grab my free Stop Your Spinout Guide. I show you the exact method I used to stop these unproductive thoughts.)

Was that easy to execute? No.
Did it work? Yes.

If you’re done with the emotional rollercoaster and getting emotionally sideswiped by triggers in your life and business and you just want to focus and show up every day as the unstoppable woman that you are… you can.

But first, you have a decision to make… are you or are you not going to indulge the thoughts that send you down the rabbit hole?

The answer to this question is what determines whether it gets easier or not.

Amira

[Case Study] She went from $45k to $534k

By Amira Alvarez Do you want to know why most people don't make a quantum leap in income? It's not because they're not smart enough... Or that they don't work hard enough... Or even because they don't have the right business plan... though all of those things help! It's because when you're going…
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Do you want to know why most people don’t make a quantum leap in income?

It’s not because they’re not smart enough

Or that they don’t work hard enough

Or even because they don’t have the right business plan… though all of those things help!

It’s because when you’re going for more… a lot more… you’re going to hit the terror barrier.

The terror barrier comes up when you start taking the steps that really, really, really push you out of your comfort zone… and if you’re not prepared with knowledge, support, and community… it will stop you… every time.

To explain, let me use my client Allison* as an example…

Allison is a landscape designer and when we started working together her average contract that she would go after was between $40,000 and $50,000.

But then, opportunities started opening up and she went for a $534k contract… AND GOT IT! This was huge!

But almost immediately the proverbial s— hit the fan. Things started blowing up left and right. There were issues with her team, finding the right people for the job… everything felt like it was going to be too much for her to handle.

It’s NOT that she couldn’t handle it….

It’s that it felt like it was going to be too much. Her emotions got hold of her and threw her into DAILY ups and downs of intense fear, doubt, worry… and SHAME.

Can I really do this? Am I going to be outed as a fraud? Are they going to come after me? Was her worst nightmare of being not good enough going to be realized?

She started to experience intense anxiety, she couldn’t sleep and was having a hard time functioning. In her own words… “It flattened her.”

See… this situation triggered a very old story about her father… a story that she thought that she had worked through long ago in therapy…

This is what the subconscious mind does in order to stop you when you’re really going for more… like when you’re going for 11x more than what you went for before… like going from a $45k contract to a half million dollar contract…

It grabs onto the most intense story… the one that makes you feel the most shame… and it triggers that…

Because god forbid you go for more and actualize on your dreams… your potential… what you want.

What was happening here was that Allison wasn’t just moving through what she called her “daddy story” by talking through what happened in the past with her father…

She was actually TAKING ACTION that proved that she was done with being the little girl in that story…

She was taking action that directly countered the subconscious beliefs about herself that she had held for so many years.

Your subconscious programming DOES NOT LIKE IT when you do this– it thinks you’re going to die when you do this– so it tries to stop you by throwing up intense, mind f—king emotions. THIS IS THE TERROR BARRIER.

And if you don’t know The Laws of Success

And you don’t have the support you need…

You’ll stop at that barrier… and turn right around. You won’t move through it. You’ll never get to the other side… because it’s just too intense. It will stop you and you’ll keep playing small… thinking that you just can’t do it.

But once you’re on the other side of this, you never go back.

Allison got to the other side.

Now she’s going after even bigger contracts… over $1 million… over $2 million…

She’s on her way to being a $5 million dollar company.

This is how it works… you can move through your blocks and quantum leap your business very quickly in fact… if you want to… and if you get help to stay the course.

Does it take work? Will there be those emotional blocks?

Yes and yes.

But when you do the work and take the action, your self-esteem rises– you can listen to the in-depth discussion of this in video 2 of the no-cost training Cracking the Code to Income Generation Using the Laws of Success.

You can get that here: https://theunstoppablewoman.com/3-laws-of-success/

And when your self-esteem rises… so does your ability to receive more!

And this is exactly what happened for Allison… she moved to a whole new level of Self-Worth and she quantum leaped her business.

If you want to Quantum Leap your business… and go from where you are now to playing at a much bigger level… you need to understand and live the Law of Self-Worth.

Start with this training now.

Amira

 

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PS.  I invite you to stand in your power with no apologies and bring all of YOU to the world in a bigger way. Start now. This is so important. This is how you get the wholeness, peace, and joy that you really want.  Contact my team today!