Whether it’s your partner, a contractor, or someone on your team… Do you ever find yourself irritated about how long it’s taking someone to do something? Do you wish they would just hurry up and get it done… NOW!
Exasperated you think… What’s taking them so long???!!!
You’re working so hard but they’re not stepping up or doing their job. Don’t they know what’s at stake?
It’s frustrating and if you don’t watch it, you’ll end up going into resentment and victim mode…
Trust me I know. I’m human. ;-)
One of the biggest challenges to growing my business, whether it was getting to 6-figures or 7-figures, was figuring out how to work with other humans in order to grow and scale.
Once I used the formula I share below, everything took off! Scaling became so much easier and more enjoyable.
Here’s a quick breakdown of what I do when I feel that irritation or frustration come up:
First, I clarify what I want for myself.
What is the actual goal here? What does ‘done’ look like?
Second, I determine if I’ve actually communicated that clearly to everyone involved.
Usually, the answer is no and I find that I’ve made some assumptions. This is a good time to check in on whether you’re expecting someone to read your mind or just complaining, but not instructing or clarifying. ;-)
Third, I communicate what I need with a timeline and get buy-in.
This looks like some version of ‘Hey, are we still on track to get XYZ done by end of the day today?”
Notice that all three of these steps are ‘I’ statements because… wait for it… the way out of feeling frustration or resentment, and the energy suck that causes, is to take 100% personal responsibility.
When you own the clarity and own the communication, you take 100% personal responsibility for your results. This allows you to get things done quicker and with so much more ease. When you stay in resentment and blame other people, you stay stuck spinning out and wasting valuable time instead of growing your business. Don’t sabotage yourself like this.
Instead…
Zero blame. 100% responsibility. It’s a great formula for success.
It’s one concrete way I learned to master myself, to master my business.