It’s a new year… and I don’t know about you but I LOVE NEW! I love a new outfit, a new car, a new relationship… new is fun, mysterious and sexy.

So for this new year… I am determined to create a new experience in my life.

An experience of spaciousness.

As a high-achieving, driven, ambitious and unstoppable woman… I know how to get stuff done. I know how to go hard, lean in and make it happen. It might even be my super-power (and yours too!)

Don’t worry… I am actually not a work-aholic or overwhelmed in my responsibilities.

But what I am is booked solid during my determined ‘working hours’… well that doesn’t leave the spaciousness I desire to create, ponder and learn at the level that I want.

So I have a new desire.

What happens when you have a new desire? Often, everything that doesn’t match that desire becomes, well let’s say: irritating.

This new desire for spaciousness is so real, relevant and raw that it is confronting everything else on my calendar. Every moment I spend is now being measured up to the desired outcome of spaciousness.

How many calls I hold.
How my programs are laid out.
How I work with my team.
How I deliver training content.
Everything.

It’s a beautiful and powerful experience to recognize that what was once my solution to the ‘make more money’ opportunity, has become the challenge to my desire for spaciousness.

This is what happens when we begin to trust ourselves more intently, claim our value, and step into our feminine essence (which requires us to open up and trust to receive more.) The last solution we had becomes the next challenge to overcome.

This brings me immense joy… and peace.

It’s growth.
It’s surrender.
It’s my desires evolving.

So… what’s new for you this year?

Ever wonder why not having enough time, never ending todo lists, and doing “all the things” all the time feels… so oppressive?

I wish that I had this information years ago, it would have helped me with my ability to receive both in my business in terms of revenue, ideal clients, opportunities, and more… and in my personal life. And yep, that means in my sex life as well. Read on to see how this is all connected.

In the book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill speaks about the sexual nature of men. He talks about having a highly sexed nature being a key aspect to all successful men.

Meaning that they are tapped into their desire to have sex.

Did you know that you can take this drive– this physical, biological drive– and channel it, transmute it, and use that same energy for building your business, calling in more money, achieving any goal that you have, financial or otherwise? Enticing right?

It is POWERFUL energy because quite frankly sexual energy is creative life force energy.

It’s the energy required to make babies and create life.

Now what happens if you can take that energy and put it towards something else? If successful men have this high sex drive, and they can transmute it and use it to create huge amounts of success, where does that leave women?

What I find with many women, who are ambitious, driven, high-achievers, is that for a variety of different reasons, they suppress much of their feminine essence (and honestly sexual energy) in favor of their masculine essence.

Now, why might that be? Well, quite frankly, when building a business, leading a team, managing multiple initiatives, you have to do a lot of very structured, focused doing and the masculine essence drives that kind of action… It’s hunting, pursuing, very directive. It’s about making impressions, it’s about going out, being outwardly driven.

You can think of this in terms of how the male and the female genitalia physically look. The male genitalia is outward driven, very directive, when it’s alert, you can really see that. ;-)

The female genitalia is a receiving shape and to receive you must open. You can really see the difference in our physiology.

So the feminine essence is really about receiving, it’s about nurturing like the womb, being open, like you need to do during sex.

It’s about magnetizing and attracting. It’s a different kind of energy.

Now there is no better or worse, good or bad, between the two. You need both. As I mentioned, to create (or make babies), you need a masculine and a feminine, you can’t have one without the other, you won’t be able to create.

What this looks like in business is giving yourself time for cogitation, thinking, and nurturing your ideas. It’s about opening to what is possible and what you desire to receive. It’s about allowing it in. This is the feminine essence.

The reason so many women are in a power struggle with time is because we stay in the masculine energy and neglect the feminine. It suppresses our ability and desire to receive.

We think going hard is the secret sauce for success, but in reality it’s in our ability to openly receive. To lean into and nurture our ideas, allow the incubation period to be fully formed. Then, and only then, is it time to tap into the masculine essence, putting it all together and getting it out in the world. You need both.

As the New Year approaches… explore your feminine essence further. Allow yourself to be open and ready to receive. Tap into this and you’ll begin to more easily transmute your vision and desires in results. You will be amazed at how liberated you feel and the results you experience.