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Mastering Life and Business: Unveiling the Secrets of the Extraordinary

By Amira Alvarez One of the principles I’ve learned while manifesting a really magnificent business and life is that Desire is Causative. It’s the cause or driver, the motivation for creating everything, including a truly expansive, extraordinary life. This is the life that we know we were made for but (perhaps) haven’t yet…
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One of the principles I’ve learned while manifesting a really magnificent business and life is that Desire is Causative.

It’s the cause or driver, the motivation for creating everything, including a truly expansive, extraordinary life.

This is the life that we know we were made for but (perhaps) haven’t yet lived to our fullest potential.

One thing that blocks people from their greatness and living extraordinary is not understanding what a TRUE desire is.

This was true for me at one point in my life.

I had to decondition myself and teach myself what a true desire really was.

I had to overcome all the conditioning that had me suppressing what I wanted in favor of pleasing others.

I found that I was putting my desires on hold in favor of other people’s needs, even if they didn’t actually express them.

I was so conditioned to fear letting other people down, that no one had to tell me to put them first anymore… it just became the voice in my head, driving me.

I lovingly call that voice “The Task Master.” (Do you have one too?)

Although I have great admiration for my will and work ethic, her shadow side is a suppression of my true wants and desires.

Sometimes to the point of ridiculousness… for example…

I remember one day when I was working on something for a client and REALLY had to go to the bathroom, but kept putting it off until I finished what I was working on.

Then it became just one more thing I had to do, then another and another.

Everything else, for everyone else, was urgent.

My own desires… even such a simple bodily desire as wanting to go to the bathroom took second place.

Now discipline is one thing, but I woke up at that moment realizing that this was the epitome of how I kept putting off my true desires for something else.

So much so that I didn’t even know what I truly wanted.

#FacePalm!!!

This was the path to being a good little worker bee but not the way to extraordinary success.

I had to recondition myself so I could actually tap into what I wanted.

This started with asking myself simple questions, Did I really want a glass of lemonade or a nap? Did I have a response for this initiative in my business or was it just what that “marketing guru” said was hot at the moment?

It started small, with a step-by-step deconditioning of jumping to meet other people’s needs (read: the demands of your business, your clients, your Team, your family, and yes, even your dog) in order to know what I truly wanted and follow that.

I had to tune into these small desires to really start to claim the bigger ones.

The result?

I was willing and able to claim a goal of making $1 million dollars in a year.

This was way beyond any desire I had previously held. But it was a TRUE DESIRE.

And I knew it to be true based on how it felt, which I had learned to tap into through all my deconditioning and practice.

I trusted it and could move forward with faith and belief.

Not only did that lead to a much larger income, but paved the way to so much more that I had no idea was possible for me but at some level wanted. Like…

A lit-up sex life, an epic love, stepping into my authority, claiming my beauty, and last but not least…

A life lived with PURPOSE.

More on that next week.

Until then, a really powerful couple of questions to ask yourself are: What do you really want? And what’s getting in your way?

Love and business–it isn’t greedy to want both

By Amira Alvarez I was just thinking about the flow of my day. I’m pretty darn grateful for how smooth and spacious things are of late. Coffee in bed with my ember mug. (Do you have one??? They are AMAZING. I have 3. One for me, one for my man, and one because…
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I was just thinking about the flow of my day. I’m pretty darn grateful for how smooth and spacious things are of late.

Coffee in bed with my ember mug. (Do you have one??? They are AMAZING. I have 3. One for me, one for my man, and one because I had to have it rose gold. So yes, that’s two for me. )

A short meeting with two brilliant women to discuss our upcoming rebrand. (So excited.)

An impromptu Ops call with Ariana aka “the rockstar glue that holds it all together” for us behind the scenes.

A call with my honey in the middle of day to discuss life, love, and the sexy topic of currency insurance. (Turns out you need this when you’re taking 10 women to Paris and Venice in the Fall of 2024, for an epic 7 day experience.*)

Plus a slice of GF chocolate cake while sitting outside to write this newsletter. (‘Cause I’m done with dieting. More on that in another post.)

But there can always be more spaciousness. More ease. More flow. More good.

This isn’t about not being appreciative or grateful.

This isn’t about being greedy.

This is how desire works. It’s always calling us into more of what’s required to unlock the next chapter of our lives.

For me, right now, this is about a real desire to spend more time with my man. Not just in the evenings but in the middle of the day, for long lunches, for epic trips.

I know in my core that this will not only be good for me and our relationship, but also for the business. Yet…

My business is so NOT set up for this right now. #Truth

I thought I had gotten out of the way and set it up to run without me. I go out of town and it runs smoothly. Love that and am totally grateful for that.

But when I’m back… I’m still too much of the bottleneck, with all the decisions running through me. Do you relate?

I’ve known this for awhile, but I didn’t have leverage over myself to change. I didn’t have something I wanted MORE than being needed in my business.

Now I do.

And the result of this bigger desire calling me forward?

A clear new vision for the business. <= See THIS needed to change so I could accommodate the desire of how I want to live and breathe with my man.

This is what I mean by ‘Desire is Causative’.

If you want what you want badly enough you will grow. You will make the changes that are required. But not before then.

I’ve been toying with a new business model for months, even years yet I didn’t have the true motivation to make that happen. Now I do.

I learned this a long time ago when I was first starting out on my journey. This is why DESIRE is the first step in The Manifestation Matrix. But it has to be a TRUE desire.

I’ve lived this process again and again. (It’s so much FUN!) Each time a true desire calls me forward into more, it moves me beyond the status quo of a good life and a good business. So if you’re asking ‘Is this all there is?” the answer is yes. Emphatically yes.

In my next post, I’ll share more about true desires and how I tapped into my true desire for an epic love.

*Want to spend time diving into your true desires, what it means to be truly wealthy, and the art of integrating the feminine into business? Ping me. There are only 4 spots left. Because this is such an intimate experience, we will need to talk to make sure there’s alignment.