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How I Stay Elevated: It’s a Conscious Decision

By Amira Alvarez I sit here on a quiet fall morning, on the first day back after Thanksgiving contemplating the highs and lows that we all experience. In this case, I’m not thinking about the dramatic highs and lows – the ones we feel with the big successes or the profound losses–rather, those quite…
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I sit here on a quiet fall morning, on the first day back after Thanksgiving contemplating the highs and lows that we all experience. 

In this case, I’m not thinking about the dramatic highs and lows – the ones we feel with the big successes or the profound losses–rather, those quite mundane daily ups and downs. 

The ones that have you say… What happened? Why am I in such a crappy mood? Or, I’ll take it but where did all this abundant joy and energy come from? 

You can be flying high one day, then wondering what happened the next. 

As a high-performer, you absolutely always get the work done no matter what even if you’re “in a bad mood”… but wouldn’t it be nice to understand how to get off this roller coaster? 

Although I’m still a work in progress (and I wouldn’t have it any other way), here’s how I step off the emotional roller coaster. 

First, a framework within which to understand the action you must take… 

We have an individual set-point. This is the mood, state, or level of well-being where you come back to over and over again. 

You go up a bit, then come back to your set point.

You go down a bit lower, they come up to your set point.

This set-point is your emotional norm. 

Even if this norm isn’t how you’d like to feel, you keep coming back to it.

Your norm is the known, conditioned, habituated Self. 

It’s the way of being that you’ve conditioned yourself to recognize as you.

She has the same complaints… same frustrations… same habits of thought… same perspectives… same reactions and actions… and the same conversations in her head. 

Here’s a good example…

I woke up in a GREAT mood. Then I went to get tea instead of coffee, a change I consciously decided to make yesterday…

And on my way to the kettle, I recognized a conversation in my head that was mopey and complaining. Not enough time… don’t want to do it… it’s going to take too long… and so on.

These are familiar thoughts of the old, conditioned Self. 

But here’s the thing to know… These thoughts weren’t really related to the “tea rather than coffee” decision. Not at all.

It’s that my Conditioned Self felt I was too far above my set point so it engaged in an internal conversation of conditioned thinking about the most convenient topic at hand to bring me back to “myself.”   

This moment, when you realize that you’ve been hijacked by your Conditioned Self, is your moment of TRUTH and you have a DECISION to make…

Change or stay complicit with your Conditioned Self.

And it’s so seductively easy to keep thinking those habitual thoughts and taking those habitual actions because they feel right. You’re so used to thinking them that they’ve become your emotional comfort zone. 

And yet if you want off the roller coaster, you must intentionally change your thinking. 

Which is what I did this morning. I replaced those familiar thoughts with thinking as I truly wanted to be and am: Grateful. Happy. In love with life.

The result?

A delicious cup of tea AND… a steady stream of feeling in the flow, in love with life, one with the Universe.  

This is the process I’ve been using for years to continually uplevel my personal set point and yet I’m astounded how every time I uplevel, there are new places that my conditioned self rears up. (Really? Making tea is going to set you off? Lol!)

I’m also astounded by how easy it is to stay complicit and go along with the Conditioned Self.

It’s surprising how much discipline it requires to consistently recognize the habitual patterns that bring you down to your set-point. 

Yet when you do, you free yourself from that emotional roller coaster and start living a truly exquisite life.

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Success is Just the Beginning: A Real Conversation About Purpose

By Amira Alvarez Tailored for impact: Heads up! This is meant for a very specific individual – the brilliant entrepreneur or C-suite-savvy woman. If that's you, keep reading.  You know how to build a business. You’ve done it. Perhaps even multiple times. That’s not where the challenge lies. The challenge lies when you…
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Tailored for impact:

Heads up! This is meant for a very specific individual – the brilliant entrepreneur or C-suite-savvy woman. If that’s you, keep reading. 

You know how to build a business. You’ve done it.

Perhaps even multiple times.

That’s not where the challenge lies.

The challenge lies when you look beyond what you’ve accomplished and ask yourself what’s next? 

Do I start another business? Step into another role in another company?
Does that even light me up? What do I really want to do?

You more or less have the time and the money to do what you want.

And you’re certainly not short of ideas. 

You keep cycling through what you could do with your life and you’re frustrated by why it’s not clear.

You land on an idea, one that would serve the world and you could probably do that very successfully, BUT…

Something’s not lighting you up about any of it… and you can’t put your finger on it. 

Is it worth the effort? Can I rally my energy for that? Do I even want to?

And here’s the thing…

You don’t really want to work like that any more. You don’t want to keep chasing the goal, being driven by urgency, stress, and not letting others down. 

You know that intuitively.

And yet… you ask… how do I motivate myself if not by the urgency created by setting another big ass goal?

Well, you can’t do it within the same paradigm.
It’s by approaching it in a totally different way.

It starts with…

Getting at the truth of who you are.
Understanding what you truly want. All of it.
Recognizing your purpose.
Figuring out what to do with that.
Unraveling the reasons why it can’t work, so that it does work.
Then walking the uncharted path and having a lived experience of a life that actually lights you up.

If this appeals to you, I’m taking two clients right now on this journey. Is one of them you?

This is for those who want to create their most exquisite life…
Who want to make good on the unconscious promises of how their life would be that they made to themselves in childhood…
Who do not wish to tolerate a compromised life any longer…
Who are willing to be present to what needs to unfold and do the deep work…

To see if this work is right for you, and if you and I are a good fit to work together, email us that you’re interested.

My team will have a 15 minute alignment conversation with you. If we think it’s a good fit, they’ll set up a time for you and I to have an in-depth conversation.

May your spirit guide you to what’s right for you.

The Voice of the Ambitious Woman

By Amira Alvarez When you’re going for more it’s often hard to listen to your Soul. It doesn’t seem expedient. There are so many other pressing things that need your attention. Why should I go inside? Why should I listen? I certainly don’t have time for this, the story goes. Whether you think…
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When you’re going for more it’s often hard to listen to your Soul. It doesn’t seem expedient. There are so many other pressing things that need your attention. Why should I go inside? Why should I listen? I certainly don’t have time for this, the story goes.

Whether you think you have time or you don’t, if you take the time to listen, your Soul will always give you the correct direction. And this clear direction is priceless. 

So how do you do that?

Stop. Get quiet. Listen. 

Seems pretty easy, but what are you listening for?

For me it’s evolved. 

It used to just be a voice or dialogue in my mind that was qualitatively different from the Default Mode Network, that constant chatter in your head.

I started to pay more and more attention to it and it started to come through loud and clear. There was no question about its authority. I always knew it was correct. 

I used to call that the voice of God and I would have my own version of “Conversations With God.” (Thank you Neale Donald Walsch for the inspiration.)

Then I started to meditate.

Almost immediately I noticed a feeling in my body that again was qualitatively different from my normal resting state. 

As I started to pay attention and listen to that feeling more and more, I started loving it. Literally sending it love. As I did so, the energy became stronger and stronger and my connection to Spirit has grown exponentially since.

The result?

Now that voice and that feeling speak as one. 

Together the result is a channeling of Spirit. 

This morning it gave me guidance on what to say to a client in need, it directed me on the content of this newsletter, it showed me the difference between illusion and reality and how to stop creating the illusion.

So what does this have to do with anything important to you?

Having access to this power and knowing how to build this connection, is your birthright as well.

It clarifies the path. 
It provides the net.
It removes uncertainty. 

And yet often for ambitious, driven women, we suppress our access to this, thinking that we have to do it all on our own.

Certainly we won’t abdicate our responsibility or the action that is ours to take BUT this connection to Spirit makes your work so much easier.

Your job now is to build your connection to it. Start with what I’ve written above and keep your eyes open for our upcoming (2024) Exquisite Life Plan Event where I will be teaching you the methodology for accessing this… and so much more!

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Order, Beauty, and Success: Lessons from David Beckham

By Amira Alvarez Last night I wrapped up the Netflix documentary on David Beckham. It was soooo good!  I love learning about successful people’s paths and although there’s so much to muse about in this documentary, I want to focus on Beckham’s seeming obsession with order in his environment… from the meticulous way…
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Last night I wrapped up the Netflix documentary on David Beckham. It was soooo good! 

I love learning about successful people’s paths and although there’s so much to muse about in this documentary, I want to focus on Beckham’s seeming obsession with order in his environment… from the meticulous way he keeps his kitchen to the order of his clothes in his closet.

One might say it’s slightly OCD or that he has too much time on his hands, but I imagine that this level of order creates so much visual beauty that it helps quiet his mind. 

I know that seeing how he folded, stacked, and arranged his t-shirts made my heart smile and calmed my nervous system right down. Ahhhhh…

As someone who loves a clean and ordered house… who organizes her closet by both type of clothing and color… who likes her shoes all facing the same way… you get the idea…it’s peaceful and easy on my eyes… I totally relate.   

Order creates so much beauty and beauty is a type of order.

But watching someone err on the side of compulsion made me muse…

Is there such a thing as too much order? 

And further… I wonder what the closets of the über successful are like???

I can’t imagine anyone who is truly on the top of their game having a disordered environment.

So does order create success or are the successful naturally ordered? 

Clearly, an OCD compulsion for order alone doesn’t create success. But a disordered environment and disordered thinking certainly creates friction that gets in the way of success in both life and business.

So what’s the lesson from Beckham’s meticulousness?

No, it’s not to be OCD about everything in life. 

The lesson is to find the order that creates beauty and flow in your life and build on that. Not so much that it constrains your flow but enough to give structure to it.

Order in your relationships, management, parenting, time, food, health, love… and yes, your closet. ;-) 

Create that order and watch your peace, ease, and success increase.

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The cocktail of business and emotions

By Amira Alvarez Sometimes our feelings are overwhelming. They come on strong and knock you to your knees. From clients to friends, this week I saw such bright, formidable women in tears. These are women running exceptional businesses–they are strong, ambitious, juggling all the things. And yet when the feelings come, they can’t…
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Sometimes our feelings are overwhelming. They come on strong and knock you to your knees.

From clients to friends, this week I saw such bright, formidable women in tears.

These are women running exceptional businesses–they are strong, ambitious, juggling all the things.

And yet when the feelings come, they can’t be suppressed… even if that would be much more convenient.

Sure, we can set them aside or compartmentalize for a period.

I know I have. 

And yet if you don’t attend to them, that’s when all hell breaks loose. 

Rash decisions, meltdowns, losing your temper.

Or the inability to make decisions, a ‘what’s the point’ attitude, or full-blown depression.

It can get ugly. It can be a spiral of negativity.

Because your feelings will have their say, one way or another. 

They will absolutely do whatever is necessary to get your attention.

Because they need your attention. There is something important that they have for you.

Think about it… why would we have feelings if they didn’t serve an important purpose?

Nothing is random. We don’t live in a random universe. 

So despite them coming up at inconvenient times, they are not the enemy.

So how do you deal with your feelings when you’re running a major business and it’s just not the time for a major meltdown?

That’s a really good question. Today I’d like to share ONE of the things I do. 

It’s a process that once you get good at, takes all of 2 minutes. Sometimes it’s even shorter than that.

I taught it to the women in the Spirit of Wealth this past week, taking them through an in real time, actual lived experience of using this. 

I love these moments because theoretical book-learning only takes us so far. We actually learn on the field of play. That’s where it gets deeply embedded and rewired for us.

Here’s a brief recap of what I shared with them…

If you’re all good right now, listen anyway. You’ll have it for when you need it.

If there’s a feeling that’s pulling at you, needing attention, please use this process now. Maybe a few times. 

It’s a practice that starts now. 

What’s Your Phoenix Rising?

By Amira Alvarez What does it mean to reinvent yourself? Especially if you kind of like yourself… a lot…already? Do you have to burn it all down and like the Phoenix, rise up again from the ashes? Or is there another way to call forth the next iteration of you, your life, and…
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What does it mean to reinvent yourself?

Especially if you kind of like yourself… a lot…already?

Do you have to burn it all down and like the Phoenix, rise up again from the ashes?

Or is there another way to call forth the next iteration of you, your life, and your business? 

To be honest, I’m constantly assessing and calling forth more. That’s what I live and breathe. Change is something I’m used to and crave. I’m certainly not afraid of change. You too?

But there are times when what needs to come forward feels bigger than the regular iteration of personal and business growth. It feels closer to a tectonic shift.

A shift that’s ready to rock you to your core. And you can FEEL it.

There are days, even months, when you try to look away and ignore it, and go on like business as usual. 

Because quite frankly it feels like a lot to manage. It would be so much easier to pretend you didn’t feel the call.

But when the call is made, the call is made. 

When your soul will no longer be ignored… there will be a rebirth. That’s for sure!

This is what I’ve been going through… for months… and months.

It’s been both frustrating and delightful.

The frustration has come because…

  • I’ve simply wanted to know the answer, even before I was truly prepared to receive it. Granted, patience has always been a challenge for me. But when it takes months upon months of leaning in… I was definitely tested. A lot of meditation helps. 
  • I’ve wanted to know the answer before I’ve walked the path. This is classic. Wanting to have certainty before taking action. There’s no such thing. You have to become more to have more. You must walk the path. F&*k!!!!
  • I wanted it to be easier BUT I was totally resisting. I was not listening to my Team. I was not listening to myself. And I was not listening to my SOUL. Ouch! But that’s the truth. Got to admit it. The “ego me” had her heels dug in resisting the call, denying the ease that was right there for me if I just said YES.

On the delightful front… 

  • I’ve said YES. This feels so good. I’ve handed over the reins of implementation to my über competent Team, which of course includes my soul 😉, and stepped into open-hearted trust.  The adventure begins!
  • I picked the theme Phoenix Rising for the upcoming Spirit of Wealth retreat months ago… long before I recognized that I myself was in a full rebirth journey. 🤪 How beautiful and delightful is that? I love it when things just work out.
  • I’ve gone from frustrated to excited. Game on for the next level of manifestation. 

But to go back to the beginning of this missive and answer the questions… What does it mean to reinvent yourself? Do you have to burn it all down and like the Phoenix, rise up again from the ashes?

What I’ve learned in this journey is that no… it doesn’t mean that you have to burn it ALL down. But YES there will be aspects of who you are and what you’re doing that you will need to let go of. 

This is the Law of Sacrifice… you must let go of something of a lower nature to let in something of a higher nature.

Including, often, what you find near and dear, whether in business or in life.

The bigger the sacrifice the scarier it will be… until you LEAP! 

I’ve lept. Will you?

Is there something that you feel needs to dramatically change in your life or business? 

Are you primed for reinvention but the clarity hasn’t come into focus?

With a little more clarity, would you have the hutzpah to leap?

Yes? 

Then join us at Phoenix Rising where I walk you through… 

How to let go of what needs to be released…

How to become more of WHO you are to receive more of WHAT you want, and…

How to create an expanded version of an already great life and business.

I’ll share both my Phoenix Rising process with you, my personal journey AND the outcome of it. 

It will be a surprise that won’t surprise you…. Because everything one steps into is actually the obvious next step.

What will it be for you?

Note => If you’re in Colorado, or want to get yourself there, and join our Spirit of Wealth program and this Phoenix Rising event Oct 6th-8th, please click here to apply to the program and have a call with me. 

Although last minute, and clearly time is of the essence, we thought for the right woman, who’s craving a community of powerful female entrepreneurs and is willing and ready to make a leap, we ought to extend this offer. 

The work we’ll do will be deep. 
It won’t be for the faint of heart.
You will need to go all-in.

But the result? REINVENTION.

So if it’s your time to either change up your life or take your business to the next level this is an invitation, because we wouldn’t want you to miss out. We’re just days away. Click here to go through our application process. Let’s discover what your Phoenix Rising is going to be.