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Break Through Denial: A Manifestation Must

By Amira Alvarez The second step in the Manifestation Matrix, denial, plays a significant role in why many individuals struggle to manifest their desires. It's important to recognize that denial is not something to be feared but an integral part of the manifestation process. In fact, one common obstacle is actually denying the…
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The second step in the Manifestation Matrix, denial, plays a significant role in why many individuals struggle to manifest their desires. It’s important to recognize that denial is not something to be feared but an integral part of the manifestation process.

In fact, one common obstacle is actually denying the very existence of denial. 🙄

Many people choose to ignore, avoid, or sidestep it, leading to various delays in their manifestation journey.

The denial phase occurs when you declare your desire, but doubts and questions begin to emerge.

This happens to ALL OF US when we’re really going after something that stretches us, that’s BIG, that we haven’t YET been able to create in our lives.

It’s important to recognize how doubt sneaks into our thinking… even if you want to deny it.

Pay attention to when you have thoughts such as:

– Is it wrong to want that?
– How can I possibly make it happen?
– Is this truly what I desire?
– Is it responsible to pursue this?
– Am I being greedy or self-serving?
– Shouldn’t I be content with what I have?
– I’ll never attain that.
– I’m asking for too much.
– That’s not meant for me.
– And more…

These doubts can undermine your confidence and, if left unaddressed, trap you in the denial phase, leading to frustration and unmet desires.

Now let’s go deeper…

Doubts can manifest in two ways: they can be prominent, causing inner conflict and a noticeable misalignment between your thoughts and your emotions. Or, they can lurk beneath the surface, leaving you with a sense that something is off, even when you believe everything is fine.

This later tendency to “deny the denial” is a common pitfall.

In the realm of business, denying the denial may involve ignoring misgivings about organizational changes, initiatives, or personal presentation. In your personal life, it can mean disregarding uncertainties about how to achieve your aspirations, questioning your worthiness of a better life, or underestimating the time and effort required.

Continuing to ignore these misgivings prevents you from attaining the necessary vibrational frequency for your manifestations to become reality. Remember…to receive what you desire, you must align with its vibrational frequency.

So, how do you transition from the denial phase to a state of receptivity? Here are a few tips:

1. Acknowledge that denial is part of the process. It doesn’t need to be magnified with fear or anxiety, but it shouldn’t become an excuse to remain stuck. Work through it.

2. Calmly investigate the source of dissonance and doubt. Ask yourself where the dissonance is coming from, what its origin is, where you feel off, and what the storyline in your head is indicating. Keep asking questions and listening until you uncover the truth and understand where you’re not aligned.

3. Experiment with shifting your desires in both more general and more specific directions. Pay attention to how each adjustment makes you feel—whether it makes you feel open and expansive or tight and restricted. If it feels neutral, that might not be where you’re in denial. Keep exploring, asking questions, and making adjustments until you move beyond the denial phase and align with the vibrational frequency of your desires.

Remember, acknowledging and overcoming denial is an essential step on your path to successful manifestation of all that you desire and your exquisite life as both a woman and an empire builder.

Embrace the process, stay open to adjustments, and trust in your ability to progress from denial to the FULL manifestation of every one of your wishes fulfilled.

You can do this!

How I didn’t get my manifestation

By Amira Alvarez Despite my mad manifestation skills sometimes I don’t get what I “want.” I put “want” in quotes because often the thing you think you want is not really what you want. It’s not a true desire but a stand-in for it or even a distraction from what you really want. …
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Despite my mad manifestation skills sometimes I don’t get what I “want.”

I put “want” in quotes because often the thing you think you want is not really what you want. It’s not a true desire but a stand-in for it or even a distraction from what you really want. 

Let’s call that a “should want.”

It’s something you think you should want but it really isn’t that important to you.

Yet often you only realize that later, after the fact, once you’ve had the lived experience and can triangulate the information.

Case in point, my recent experience with the builders of my house.

Here’s the story…

I love my house but I am moving to CA. The house is only 2 years old so it only takes some minor staging, a touch-up of paint, and a bit of landscaping to really make it shine. 

In preparing the house for sale, my agent suggests going back to the builders to get them to pay for landscaping to help with some erosion that’s occurred in the backyard.

Unlike my desire to sell and move, I’m hesitant about this. I hem and haw for a bit but my real estate agent thought it was worth asking.

When framed that way, I was like… “Okay, it’s worth asking. It can’t hurt to ask.” 

I wasn’t just deferring to him. I’m always open to input and this seemed like the logical thing to do. Plus, I figured the hesitation I felt was simply my conditioning to avoid conflict. 

So even though I wasn’t in my full ‘yes,’ I made the conscious decision to go forward. 

But then my agent took longer to get in touch with the builder and I got frustrated. 

I was irritated.
I started going into resentment.  

I focused my energy on “why aren’t you getting this done?!”and everything started to feel hard, like swimming upstream. 

This was a sign to let it go… But I didn’t. (Owning that.)

I persisted. 

I put more time and effort into it and ultimately sent an email to the builder. 

I got a definitive response. 

NO.

Along with all the legal reasons why the no was a no.

Ugh! I really don’t like not getting what I want. 

I could feel the pull to go back in, fight harder for what I wanted, defend the rationale that we put forth, prove that we were right… BUT NO, this time I wasn’t going to go there.

 

This was conflict energy and this was not going to help me get what I wanted. 

 

But here’s the rub…

 

Getting the builders to pay for this wasn’t what was really important to me. 

 

Moving, and getting the amount that I wanted for my house, was important to me. That’s what I truly wanted!

Asking the builders to pay for something was a “should want,” not a true want.

It was never meant to manifest because manifestations happen for TRUE desires, not SHOULD desires. 

They also come with ease and grace, not conflict energy.* 

And these two concepts lead us to this… we never get “should wants”… at least not easily. 

That’s not how manifestation works.

Now I’ve been at this for years…

I know this stuff…

Shouldn’t I have known better and acted differently?  

Yes, yes, yes!  

I point this out because instead of recrimination, I appreciated my ability to let go and course-correct. And this is key. 

No making myself wrong, because the make-wrong never makes it right. 

And with those two simple choices… letting go of the need to be right and choosing to appreciate that decision… 

I got back on track to manifesting my exquisite life. 

I hope this helps you manifest yours as well. 

*This is not to say avoid conflict or avoid asking for what you want. There are many times when this is required, like when I sent Tony Robbins a Cease and Desist Letter and they immediately changed course. The key is don’t do it with conflict energy. Your ‘come from’ needs to be clean. More on that in another newsletter.

The cocktail of business and emotions

By Amira Alvarez Sometimes our feelings are overwhelming. They come on strong and knock you to your knees. From clients to friends, this week I saw such bright, formidable women in tears. These are women running exceptional businesses–they are strong, ambitious, juggling all the things. And yet when the feelings come, they can’t…
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Sometimes our feelings are overwhelming. They come on strong and knock you to your knees.

From clients to friends, this week I saw such bright, formidable women in tears.

These are women running exceptional businesses–they are strong, ambitious, juggling all the things.

And yet when the feelings come, they can’t be suppressed… even if that would be much more convenient.

Sure, we can set them aside or compartmentalize for a period.

I know I have. 

And yet if you don’t attend to them, that’s when all hell breaks loose. 

Rash decisions, meltdowns, losing your temper.

Or the inability to make decisions, a ‘what’s the point’ attitude, or full-blown depression.

It can get ugly. It can be a spiral of negativity.

Because your feelings will have their say, one way or another. 

They will absolutely do whatever is necessary to get your attention.

Because they need your attention. There is something important that they have for you.

Think about it… why would we have feelings if they didn’t serve an important purpose?

Nothing is random. We don’t live in a random universe. 

So despite them coming up at inconvenient times, they are not the enemy.

So how do you deal with your feelings when you’re running a major business and it’s just not the time for a major meltdown?

That’s a really good question. Today I’d like to share ONE of the things I do. 

It’s a process that once you get good at, takes all of 2 minutes. Sometimes it’s even shorter than that.

I taught it to the women in the Spirit of Wealth this past week, taking them through an in real time, actual lived experience of using this. 

I love these moments because theoretical book-learning only takes us so far. We actually learn on the field of play. That’s where it gets deeply embedded and rewired for us.

Here’s a brief recap of what I shared with them…

If you’re all good right now, listen anyway. You’ll have it for when you need it.

If there’s a feeling that’s pulling at you, needing attention, please use this process now. Maybe a few times. 

It’s a practice that starts now. 

What’s Your Phoenix Rising?

By Amira Alvarez What does it mean to reinvent yourself? Especially if you kind of like yourself… a lot…already? Do you have to burn it all down and like the Phoenix, rise up again from the ashes? Or is there another way to call forth the next iteration of you, your life, and…
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What does it mean to reinvent yourself?

Especially if you kind of like yourself… a lot…already?

Do you have to burn it all down and like the Phoenix, rise up again from the ashes?

Or is there another way to call forth the next iteration of you, your life, and your business? 

To be honest, I’m constantly assessing and calling forth more. That’s what I live and breathe. Change is something I’m used to and crave. I’m certainly not afraid of change. You too?

But there are times when what needs to come forward feels bigger than the regular iteration of personal and business growth. It feels closer to a tectonic shift.

A shift that’s ready to rock you to your core. And you can FEEL it.

There are days, even months, when you try to look away and ignore it, and go on like business as usual. 

Because quite frankly it feels like a lot to manage. It would be so much easier to pretend you didn’t feel the call.

But when the call is made, the call is made. 

When your soul will no longer be ignored… there will be a rebirth. That’s for sure!

This is what I’ve been going through… for months… and months.

It’s been both frustrating and delightful.

The frustration has come because…

  • I’ve simply wanted to know the answer, even before I was truly prepared to receive it. Granted, patience has always been a challenge for me. But when it takes months upon months of leaning in… I was definitely tested. A lot of meditation helps
  • I’ve wanted to know the answer before I’ve walked the path. This is classic. Wanting to have certainty before taking action. There’s no such thing. You have to become more to have more. You must walk the path. F&*k!!!!
  • I wanted it to be easier BUT I was totally resisting. I was not listening to my Team. I was not listening to myself. And I was not listening to my SOUL. Ouch! But that’s the truth. Got to admit it. The “ego me” had her heels dug in resisting the call, denying the ease that was right there for me if I just said YES.

On the delightful front… 

  • I’ve said YES. This feels so good. I’ve handed over the reins of implementation to my über competent Team, which of course includes my soul 😉, and stepped into open-hearted trust.  The adventure begins!
  • I picked the theme Phoenix Rising for the upcoming Spirit of Wealth retreat months ago… long before I recognized that I myself was in a full rebirth journey. 🤪 How beautiful and delightful is that? I love it when things just work out.
  • I’ve gone from frustrated to excited. Game on for the next level of manifestation. 

But to go back to the beginning of this missive and answer the questions… What does it mean to reinvent yourself? Do you have to burn it all down and like the Phoenix, rise up again from the ashes?

What I’ve learned in this journey is that no… it doesn’t mean that you have to burn it ALL down. But YES there will be aspects of who you are and what you’re doing that you will need to let go of. 

This is the Law of Sacrifice… you must let go of something of a lower nature to let in something of a higher nature.

Including, often, what you find near and dear, whether in business or in life.

The bigger the sacrifice the scarier it will be… until you LEAP! 

I’ve lept. Will you?

Is there something that you feel needs to dramatically change in your life or business? 

Are you primed for reinvention but the clarity hasn’t come into focus?

With a little more clarity, would you have the hutzpah to leap?

Yes? 

Then join us at Phoenix Rising where I walk you through… 

How to let go of what needs to be released…

How to become more of WHO you are to receive more of WHAT you want, and…

How to create an expanded version of an already great life and business.

I’ll share both my Phoenix Rising process with you, my personal journey AND the outcome of it. 

It will be a surprise that won’t surprise you…. Because everything one steps into is actually the obvious next step.

What will it be for you?

Note => If you’re in Colorado, or want to get yourself there, and join our Spirit of Wealth program and this Phoenix Rising event Oct 6th-8th, please click here to apply to the program and have a call with me. 

Although last minute, and clearly time is of the essence, we thought for the right woman, who’s craving a community of powerful female entrepreneurs and is willing and ready to make a leap, we ought to extend this offer. 

The work we’ll do will be deep. 
It won’t be for the faint of heart.
You will need to go all-in.

But the result? REINVENTION.

So if it’s your time to either change up your life or take your business to the next level this is an invitation, because we wouldn’t want you to miss out. We’re just days away. Click here to go through our application process. Let’s discover what your Phoenix Rising is going to be.

The Secret to Getting What You Want

By Amira Alvarez Have you ever written a manifestation list? Where you just let it rip and write it all down?  It feels sooooo good… especially if you don’t censor or edit. In fact, that defeats the purpose. The whole idea is to fully express everything that you want without holding back. You…
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Have you ever written a manifestation list?

Where you just let it rip and write it all down? 

It feels sooooo good… especially if you don’t censor or edit.

In fact, that defeats the purpose.

The whole idea is to fully express everything that you want without holding back.

You start and you don’t stop until you can’t think of anything else you want. Not one thing is left off your list.

The Manifestation List is the first step in actualizing your truth, your fully actualized exquisite life. Not the ‘almost amazing’ life. But the one that’s truly divine. The one that you know you were put here to live.

I did this again recently and I wrote out over 4 pages of desires! 

The desires just kept coming. 

Some of them were small, some of them large.
Some of them were material things, some of them feelings or experiences.
Some of them were desires that were only vaguely conscious previously, some of them completely unknown until they came onto the page and surprised me.

I’m not afraid of desire. 

Whether I’m desiring something for my business or about love, relationships, the esoteric, etc… 

I don’t get spun out thinking… I couldn’t possibly have that. 

I don’t worry… What if it doesn’t happen? Will I be crushed by the disappointment?

I don’t think… I don’t see the way to that, it must not be here for me.

I don’t ask myself… Is it wrong to desire more?

And most of all…

I don’t say… I’m not worthy of it.

I just claim what I want. 

I’ve been doing this for years, for both the business and the personal life. 

And it works to create what you desire with so much ease and grace. 

By no means is it the end of the manifestation process. There’s so much more to creating an exquisite life than just a list. 

But this list? 

It’s a powerful beginning.

After that there are many additional steps I take. More on that soon enough… 

But for today… Will you do this first step? Will you join me in just letting your desires run free?

Are you willing to give this a shot? 

Sit down, pen to paper, and simply start writing.

Don’t censor. Don’t edit. Don’t go down the brainstorming rabbit hole.

Simply write.

It’s an act of self-love.

If you meditate, you could start with that. Even just a couple of minutes to come back into connection with your true self and Source works. Take a few presenting breaths and reconnect to your body and this present moment.

Then start writing.

What do you want? 

Remember: Desire is Causative. Let it lead the way.

Mastering Life and Business: Unveiling the Secrets of the Extraordinary

By Amira Alvarez One of the principles I’ve learned while manifesting a really magnificent business and life is that Desire is Causative.  It’s the cause or driver, the motivation for creating everything, including a truly expansive, extraordinary life. This is the life that we know we were made for but (perhaps) haven’t yet…
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One of the principles I’ve learned while manifesting a really magnificent business and life is that Desire is Causative. 

It’s the cause or driver, the motivation for creating everything, including a truly expansive, extraordinary life.

This is the life that we know we were made for but (perhaps) haven’t yet lived to our fullest potential. 

One thing that blocks people from their greatness and living extraordinary is not understanding what a TRUE desire is.

This was true for me at one point in my life.

I had to decondition myself and teach myself what a true desire really was.

I had to overcome all the conditioning that had me suppressing what I wanted in favor of pleasing others.

I found that I was putting my desires on hold in favor of other people’s needs, even if they didn’t actually express them. 

I was so conditioned to fear letting other people down, that no one had to tell me to put them first anymore… it just became the voice in my head, driving me.

I lovingly call that voice “The Task Master.” (Do you have one too?)

Although I have great admiration for my will and work ethic, her shadow side is a suppression of my true wants and desires.

Sometimes to the point of ridiculousness… for example… 

I remember one day when I was working on something for a client and REALLY had to go to the bathroom, but kept putting it off until I finished what I was working on. 

Then it became just one more thing I had to do, then another and another. 

Everything else, for everyone else, was urgent. 

My own desires… even such a simple bodily desire as wanting to go to the bathroom took second place.

Now discipline is one thing, but I woke up at that moment realizing that this was the epitome of how I kept putting off my true desires for something else. 

So much so that I didn’t even know what I truly wanted.

#FacePalm!!! 

This was the path to being a good little worker bee but not the way to extraordinary success.

I had to recondition myself so I could actually tap into what I wanted. 

This started with asking myself simple questions, Did I really want a glass of lemonade or a nap? Did I have a response for this initiative in my business or was it just what that “marketing guru” said was hot at the moment?  

It started small, with a step-by-step deconditioning of jumping to meet other people’s needs (read: the demands of your business, your clients, your Team, your family, and yes, even your dog) in order to know what I truly wanted and follow that.

I had to tune into these small desires to really start to claim the bigger ones.

The result? 

I was willing and able to claim a goal of making $1 million dollars in a year. 

This was way beyond any desire I had previously held. But it was a TRUE DESIRE.

And I knew it to be true based on how it felt, which I had learned to tap into through all my deconditioning and practice.

I trusted it and could move forward with faith and belief.

Not only did that lead to a much larger income, but paved the way to so much more that I had no idea was possible for me but at some level wanted. Like… 

A lit-up sex life, an epic love, stepping into my authority, claiming my beauty, and last but not least…

A life lived with PURPOSE.

More on that next week.

Until then, a really powerful couple of questions to ask yourself are: What do you really want? And what’s getting in your way?