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Is your work manipulating you?

By Amira Alvarez “Shouldn’t I be satisfied?”… you tell yourself.  And yet you’re not. There’s something gnawing at you, deep underneath the surface of all the tasks. There’s clearly more that you desire.  You know that what you want is bigger than simply picking your next revenue goal.  Maybe it’s more spaciousness that…
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“Shouldn’t I be satisfied?”… you tell yourself. 

And yet you’re not.

There’s something gnawing at you, deep underneath the surface of all the tasks.

There’s clearly more that you desire. 

You know that what you want is bigger than simply picking your next revenue goal. 

Maybe it’s more spaciousness that you want…? 

Maybe it’s a deeper love…? 

Maybe it’s a more meaningful life…?

Whatever it is that you truly want, the truth is… you’ll never find it if you keep distracting yourself with work… no matter how important that work is.

Work, for the Achiever, is the master manipulator. 

It seduces you into avoidance by giving you the gifts of success. 

When we accomplish something, we get that “hit” that says “woohoo, success!”

We get the appreciation, accolades, status, and financial remuneration.

All gifts. All great things.

But what if, while in pursuit of your next hit of success, work is keeping you from manifesting your deepest yearnings?

Work is the best form of distraction. The. Very. Best.

It’s required and therefore justifiable.
It proves that you’re needed.
It shows that you excel.
It demonstrates your brilliance.
And you’re really good at it.

Plus you get lots of kudos for it and the success that it often creates. What’s not to love about that status and those accolades?

Those were hard won, so we’re definitely not going to diminish them.

And yet… 

There’s got to be a different way to live life… one that allows you to create an exquisite life of beauty, truth, love, meaning, and success… without having to prove yourself all the time.

It’s time to stop running and start receiving so much more from life. 

Stay tuned for more on The Exquisite Life Plan.

Resentment: Is it you or them?

By Amira Alvarez “Resentment is always a lack of personal responsibility.” This is one of the reminder hacks I created for myself a long, long time ago. And I still use it.  Whenever I feel resentment, I now know it always indicates a lack of personal responsibility. There is something that I did…
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“Resentment is always a lack of personal responsibility.”

This is one of the reminder hacks I created for myself a long, long time ago.

And I still use it. 

Whenever I feel resentment, I now know it always indicates a lack of personal responsibility. There is something that I did or didn’t do that I’m blaming someone else for. 

A request I didn’t make.
A desire that I held back.
A communication that wasn’t clear.
A piece of information that I failed to share.
A doubt I had in another person.
A conditioned response I haven’t upleveled.
And the list goes on…

I am 100% ‘at cause’.

I never want it to be me but it is ALWAYS me. Without exception.

Once I get over myself and my need to be right and perfect, I’m so grateful for this recognition because it always leads me to FREEDOM.

When I put this together, it was like the sky opened up to me and one of the keys to the Universe dropped into my life.

I’ve been grateful ever since.

See…

When you are no longer willing to blame anyone else for your mood, your well-being, your experience, or your results…

When you choose to be personally responsible for ALL your outcomes (not just the good ones that you’re proud of, but ALL of them)… 

Then you are back in the driver’s seat as the brilliant creator that you are. 

You take back your creative agency and the control, if you will, over your life.

So if you’re blaming anyone for letting you down, if you’re resenting someone or something, ask yourself a better question…

What do I need to take responsibility for?