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Want to Win the Battle, But Lose the War? Try Blame.

Want to Win the Battle, But Lose the War? Try Blame.
By Amira Alvarez Do you want to win the battle, but lose the war? Try blame. Today I want to talk about making mistakes, and how that causes us to want to blame other people. I wanted to touch on this topic because of something that happened with our company last week. I’m…
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Do you want to win the battle, but lose the war? Try blame.

Today I want to talk about making mistakes, and how that causes us to want to blame other people.

I wanted to touch on this topic because of something that happened with our company last week.

I’m just going to be straightforward with you… we made a mistake.

We sent out an email with the wrong time for our big training that would be live in just a few hours.

I saw that email and I was like, Oh sh*t! I immediately jumped onto Skype and communicated with my team, so that we could correct it and make sure no one was showing up on Zoom at the wrong hour.

But the thing that was crucial here, was the way that I approached this situation.

Even though I was feelin’ a little stressed about the time crunch… I was like, Hey, we need to fix this! This is the next step I want. Then, how do we solve this in case that doesn’t work for every single person attending?

No blaming, no guilt trips. Clear headed and solution-focused.

Simple enough, right? You’d think so, but SO many successful women that I talk to still get this wrongagain and again!!

I’m not totally innocent either, to be clear. ;-)

A few years ago, if something like this would have happened in my business, I would’ve thought with an attitude of frustration and blame: “The scheduler should’ve caught thisMy team wasn’t paying attentionSomeone was being sloppySo-and-so really dropped the ball.”

I would’ve gone straight into blame each and every time there was a mistake. And I really had to change my attitude around this, quite frankly. And that shift started years ago… but I’m still not perfect!

In fact, sometimes I still go there if someone is consistently dropping the ball.

When that happens, I know something is off and I have to look at Causes.

Is it a systems issue?

Is it a management issue?

Is it a right person/wrong role issue?

Is it a wrong person/right role issue?

Is it a communication issue?

Is it an integrity issue?

And so on…

The truth is that, as human beings, we all make mistakes. Nobody is perfect 100% of the time.

So even if you win that battle,” you’re not actually winning.

You’re supporting an untruth. And all that does is perpetuate it in your life.

Instead, The Law of Cause and Effect demands that you look at the causes of the results you are getting.

You are ultimately ‘First Cause’ in your life. With that in mind, do both the enquiry in your business (see questions above) and look at what you’re doing, indirectly or directly, to create the mistakes.

Although there may be hiccups along the way, if you step out of the blame game with yourself and your team, you’ll ultimately win. :)

Every time I take personal responsibility in this way, I immediately see the positive effects ripple out to my team and in all areas of my business and life.

I felt better. The ease and delight came back. All the changes that needed to be made, happened in that seemingly effortless way that I’m used to. Ahhhh… back on track!

This is what I mean by winning the war.

So, how can you hold yourself to a higher standard when it comes to this?

This is an attitude shift that closes the gap so that you’re no longer wasting energy on blaming yourself or blaming others. You’re just focused on going to the next level… which will get you there so much faster. 

How to Turn Jealousy into Self-Confidence

How to Turn Jealousy into Self-Confidence
By Amira Alvarez When you see others around you really going for it, growing their business, getting more visibility, and accomplishing big things, how does it make you feel? Is there a part of you that’s really happy for them, but another part that’s jealous? You want that level of success, but you…
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When you see others around you really going for it, growing their business, getting more visibility, and accomplishing big things, how does it make you feel?

Is there a part of you that’s really happy for them, but another part that’s jealous? You want that level of success, but you haven’t gotten there yet.

What happens next? Do you turn your criticism inwards, attacking yourself for all the ways you’re not measuring up, all the things you should’ve accomplished by now but haven’t?

Does it create some fear of being left behind? Then what?

Is it urgency or paralysis? Or something else?

Everyone has a pattern of reactivity that, if you’re not aware of, keeps you SMALL. It keeps you locked into fear-based reactivity, where you create the same results over and over again.

The way you’re feeling and reacting when others obtain what you want, says so much about you. (Remember, no harshing on yourself. We’re just bringing awareness to the pattern here.)

It says everything about the way you see yourself… this is your SELF-IMAGE, and if you’ve been following my teaching for awhile, you’ll know that your SELF-IMAGE affects every aspect of your life.

Your self-image either keeps you repeating the same patterns again and again and staying at the same level of success, revenue, love, peace, and freedom.

Or, if you’re able to change it and expand it, it allows you to create a massive quantum leap in SELF-CONFIDENCE, income and all the good that you desire in life.

You want that right? Think about what would open up for you if you knew how to change your self-image on command? You’d be able to get massively different results!!

Instead of being jealous, you’d be the one achieving the big things and inspiring others to go for more.

You’d be working towards your true desires and goals consistently, because you recognize just how valuable your time, energy, and efforts are.

You’d stay accountable and stop giving in to all the little things you don’t really want to do. You’d start changing what you’re worth. And you’d start living a fulfilling, successful, lit-up life.

So what’s required to do this?

Well, there’s some work to be done. I won’t kid you on that. (You can’t stay the same and get different results.)

I’d love to show you how to fast-track this all and build your self-image tenfold. Join me tomorrow at our Roundtable Teaching Discussion and Open Q&A on Changing Your Self-Image: The Missing Link to Rapidly Raising Your Revenue!

On Wednesday, June 16th from 1 to 2:30 ET, we’re going to give your self-confidence a makeover so you can start showing up as the truly unbelievable, kickass, uniquely powerful woman you are… and watch your income grow right alongside your self-worth and self-confidence ;-)

Click here to save your spot for this totally free 90-minute event. Please come live – there will be NO recording.

I hope I see you there… you might not even recognize yourself when you’re done ;-)

How Self-Image Can Tap Into The Most Powerful Force in the Universe

How Self-Image Can Tap Into The Most Powerful Force in the Universe
By Amira Alvarez All the energy that is in the Universe is flowing through you… and it’s taking the form of the thoughts that you’re thinking. This may sound like a woo concept, but EVERYTHING that is created starts as a thought. What’s creating those thoughts? And why do you think certain thoughts…
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All the energy that is in the Universe is flowing through you… and it’s taking the form of the thoughts that you’re thinking.

This may sound like a woo concept, but EVERYTHING that is created starts as a thought.

What’s creating those thoughts? And why do you think certain thoughts versus other thoughts?

And if those thoughts are negative like — “I just can’t get ahead… I wouldn’t be able to maintain that… I can’t do it… That’s not for people like me…” what ends up happening???

When you hold self-abusive thoughts like this in your heart, it stops you from taking action and making real progress towards your big goals, whether they’re financial, personal, relational, or all of the above.

These thoughts inhibit your every move, in turn influencing every choice you make, every action you take, all of your results and outcomes.

It’s not luck. It’s not random. It’s not happening to you.

You are creating this, and you’re doing it whether you understand it or not.

But what I want you to do is understand it—and then learn how to control it.

It starts with changing your self-image—what you think about yourself.

If you’re not getting the results you truly want, then you know that your self-image… has not kept up with your desires for what you want to achieve in this life.

It hasn’t kept up with your massive potential. It hasn’t kept up with the things you could achieve if you were executing at your highest level, and if you were living that extraordinary life you don’t just deserve… you require.

To get there, you first have to work on your self-image.

This is the only way out of the self-imposed trap you’re in.

To learn how to evolve the way you see yourself so your bank account can reap the rewards, join our Roundtable Discussion and Open Q&A on Changing Your Self-Image: The Missing Link to Rapidly Raising Your Revenue!

The Mental Block That’s Keeping You From Your Goals

The Mental Block That’s Keeping You From Your Goals
By Amira Alvarez You have big, audacious goals. You’ve claimed it, gotten giddy about it, and decided to finally take the plunge towards your true desire. You‘ve even got your foolproof plan in hand. But when you start taking action towards it… you get to one of the steps, and all you want…
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You have big, audacious goals.

You’ve claimed it, gotten giddy about it, and decided to finally take the plunge towards your true desire.

You‘ve even got your foolproof plan in hand. But when you start taking action towards ityou get to one of the steps, and all you want to do is run.

There’s resistance. It looks like complete avoidance, subtle procrastination, and distraction (i.e. getting busy with other very important things, inopportune crises and more.)

There’s almost a feeling like you’re trying to mix oil and water.

What’s up with that??

This happens because you’re in conflict with your identity and subconscious programming.

You resist doing the work because it’s so contrary to what you have done before… it’s so far from how you typically see yourself.

Let’s say you want to release some weight.

If you have a self-image of being a frumpy woman who is about 30 pounds overweight, you might be able to use persistence to shed those extra pounds.

But eventually, you’ll gain it all back.

If you want to be the successful, kickass owner of a 7-figure business, but your self-image is of a helpless girl who always calls others for advice on what to do… there’s going to be resistance there.

Same thing if you see yourself as the penny-pincher, regardless of how much you’re making – the person who second-guesses every price tag and denies herself from buying anything “just because that’s the right way to be.”

You may be able to perform at the level you desire for a little while – you might even be relatively successful – but you’ll never unlock your true potential if this is how you see yourself.

It is critically important that you align your self-image with your goals.

If you’re not doing the work to change your self-image, you will only see incremental improvements in your life and your business.

Wouldn’t you rather make a quantum leap?

If the answer is yes, then make sure to join our Roundtable Discussion and Open Q&A on Changing Your Self-Image: The Missing Link to Rapidly Raising Your Revenue!

Create More Abundance in Your Life by Doing This

Create More Abundance in Your Life by Doing This
By Amira Alvarez If you’re not tracking or looking at your numbers… around revenue, marketing metrics, fitness goals, and everything else… you’re not accepting the TRUTH about where you stand and limit yourself from creating abundance in your life. And because of this, you’re limiting the amount of GROWTH you can experience. Directly.…
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If you’re not tracking or looking at your numbers… around revenue, marketing metrics, fitness goals, and everything else… you’re not accepting the TRUTH about where you stand and limit yourself from creating abundance in your life.

And because of this, you’re limiting the amount of GROWTH you can experience.

Directly.

If you want to create abundance in any area of your life, especially income, you have to look at the numbers.

You have to be willing to see things for what they are—so that you can make INFORMED decisions about what’s working and what’s not.

It can be scary, I know.

But I also know that it can turn you on.

Yes, numbers and spreadsheets can be sexy!! Hear me out.

Nothing is sexier than achieving your goals, right?

Especially those big juicy desires you hold… the six or seven-figure income… that dream apartment on the Upper East Side… the vacation home… or the streamlined business that helps you live out your purpose and gives you time with your loved ones and for your passion projects.

THAT’S all sexy.

And knowing the numbers makes it inevitable.

I know numbers can feel scary and overwhelming… especially if you tell yourself the story that ‘you’re not good with numbers’ or you ‘don’t like spreadsheets’. (I know really smart women that want to run and hide when it comes to clearly looking at their numbers.)

But do you want to be someone with excuses and inconsistent resultsor someone with the actual successes you desire in income, impact, reach, and lifestyle?

The latter requires honesty with yourself, which requires looking at the numbers.

Are you willing to do that?

You Sit Down at Your Desk—and Then This Blocks Your Goals

You Sit Down at Your Desk—and Then This Blocks Your Goals
By Amira Alvarez You sit down at your desk in the morning, fire up your laptop, and prepare yourself to seriously achieve some goals.  Then, after taking a long sip of your coffee, you crack your knuckles and sit tall, ready to slay the day. But… things don’t go exactly as you predicted. You…
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You sit down at your desk in the morning, fire up your laptop, and prepare yourself to seriously achieve some goals. 

Then, after taking a long sip of your coffee, you crack your knuckles and sit tall, ready to slay the day.

But… things don’t go exactly as you predicted.

You get interrupted by people, kids, your own thinking. Client issues pile on. Your inbox explodes… eventually you’re in total reactive mode, putting out fires, jumping from one thing to the next.

Sure, some problems can’t be ignored—but you start to feel a nagging sense of guilt over the unchecked goals on your growing to-do list.

By the time you make it back to your pillow, you feel exhausted and let down.

You worked hard all day… but somehow you only made a tiny smidgen of progress on your big goals. Nothing like you’d hoped.

You replay the day in your head, thinking of all the things you could have done.

Does this happen too often than you’d like to admit?

Well, I hate to break it to you… but you’re trapped in a cycle that will keep you playing small and making a fraction of what you’re capable of.

If you want to earn more money, have more time, and experience more freedom, you can’t do those things if you’re not willing to get leverage over yourself and your limiting beliefs.

At some point, you have to make a completely conscious decision to do things differently.

To take actions that move you forward, despite the fear… despite other obligations… despite excuses… despite it all.

This starts with mastering your cybernetic mechanism. This is the thing that either:

  1. Propels you forward toward massive success, OR

  2. Keeps you stuck playing at the same level, day in and day out.

When you master this mechanism, you make room for your lit-up life!