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Style, Sex, and Raising Your Self-Worth

By Amira Alvarez Today’s episode is all about the link between your personal style, your self-image and sense of worth, and how that relates to raising your game in your life and your business. Learn to bring power to your presence and how to raise your success thermostat by improving your self-image. We…
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Today’s episode is all about the link between your personal style, your self-image and sense of worth, and how that relates to raising your game in your life and your business. Learn to bring power to your presence and how to raise your success thermostat by improving your self-image. We cover that and so much more in this enlightening episode – I can’t wait to share it all with you!

What To Listen For

  • Dressing for success actually works?! How clothes can influence your performance, thinking, and focus
  • Understanding how your self-image is structured in your formative years – so you can reverse the negative perspectives you’re holding on to
  • Small decisions that will help you level up in a big way
  • How to own all of your desires, so you can finally express yourself in full
  • Creating your own security in the world
  • Be pretty, but not too pretty! Talking back to the confining binaries placed on women
  • The law of polarity & how it applies to your self-image
  • Is your urge to add that shiny new thing to your cart inspired by desire… or some type of fear?
  • The double binds that were keeping me small as I moved into adulthood – and how I pulled them out by their roots
  • Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone
  • How to manipulate your success thermostat so you can continue growing!
  • The idea that women can’t be both sexy & smart – of course it’s ridiculous, but be mindful of this sneaky way it can mess with your mindset anyway…
  • How your parents’ worldviews can impact you well into adulthood – and how to reverse the effects
  • The idea of “role models” may sound corny, but it will help you step into your power!

Resources

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Heal Mindsets, Grow Income, and Increase Ease

By Amira Alvarez Earlier this week I was on The Savvy Spirit podcast with Sharon Mar and I’m so excited to share it with you.  We talked about three of my favorite things… how to heal your mindset, grow your income, and increase ease in your life and work. Click below to listen…
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Earlier this week I was on The Savvy Spirit podcast with Sharon Mar and I’m so excited to share it with you.  We talked about three of my favorite things… how to heal your mindset, grow your income, and increase ease in your life and work.

Click below to listen now:

Amira

How I Moved Past the Big Boulder in My Path

By Amira Alvarez When you're running your own business, sometimes it can feel like there's a giant boulder standing in your way. It often happens when you've been moving forward, feeling awesome, getting a ton done, and then WHAMMO... GIANT BOULDER. (Where did that come from???) And this boulder (aka, block, obstacle, issue)…
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When you’re running your own business, sometimes it can feel like there’s a giant boulder standing in your way. It often happens when you’ve been moving forward, feeling awesome, getting a ton done, and then WHAMMO… GIANT BOULDER. (Where did that come from???)

And this boulder (aka, block, obstacle, issue) doesn’t seem to want to budge.

You keep pushing and pushing but NOPE, that boulder isn’t going anywhere.

You know you’ve hit a boulder when work feels like a grind, your body starts complaining loudly, and all inspiration has vanished completely.

This happened to me one recent afternoon when my boulder came in the form of a MIGRAINE. I don’t get them often, usually once a month related to a change in my hormones. (In truth, even this is way too often, right?)

At some point in the afternoon, I realized that ALL MY FLOW had stopped. I wasn’t getting anywhere and I was grinding it out (I HATE GRINDING IT OUT).

So what did I do?

I stopped, just like that. (You can do this too. ;-)

Because continuing to grind it out is NOT productive, NOT efficient, and NOT good for either me or my clients.

I wrapped the last thing up and took a nap. But when I woke up, my headache was still there. No miracle.

I could feel myself getting annoyed and going down the rabbit hole of…“Why is this happening? I have so much to do, I just want to GO…. this means everything is going to hell in a handbasket, all my projects are going to fail, I’m really screwed.”

Whoa nelly – THIS IS NOT GREAT LINE OF THOUGHT. And yet, that’s where we tend to automatically go when things aren’t going how we want them to.

I stopped that nonsense the second I noticed it. (If you don’t have a copy of “Stop Your Spinout” my quickie guide to turning around this kind of thinking, grab it here. It’s short, powerful, and really helps in these situations.)

I TLC’d myself for the rest of the evening and went to bed.

This is the Law of Non-Resistance at play. I didn’t keep pushing against that boulder. I took the hint and I stopped resisting what was happening.

If you’ve got a boulder in front of you, whatever it looks like, know that…

1) Your inspiration will come back. It always does.

2) Your business won’t collapse. Things really can wait.

3) Resting is not avoidance unless it is. I was back at it again the next day. You’ll know the difference.

The Law of Non-Resistance is one of the most powerful laws.

The way to use it?

Ask yourself… what are you resisting?

Amira

Where is the money?

By Amira Alvarez If you're not making the money you want or you're struggling with cash flow right now, I get it. It can feel hugely hard. It's so easy to get caught up in the fact that, right now, you don't have the money you desire or need. Bills, financial obligations, kids…
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If you’re not making the money you want or you’re struggling with cash flow right now, I get it. It can feel hugely hard.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the fact that, right now, you don’t have the money you desire or need.

Bills, financial obligations, kids going to college, what about retirement… all of that… plus, that vacation and that gorgeous pair of shoes that you want. Heck, maybe you just want to get your hair and nails done.

This can be, at times, more than just frustrating. It can be downright debilitating. Panic and fear take over. I understand.

But the truth is the money is here. Right now.

Your circumstances may not show it. You may not see it. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t here.

Expand your field of view… There are plenty of businesses making great money. There are plenty of people making great money. There is plenty of money in circulation.

In fact, there’s more money in circulation now than ever before in history. It just keeps expanding.

If you’re struggling with cash flow right now in your business, it’s not because the money isn’t here. It is. That’s not the issue.

It’s that you’re not doing the right things to bring it to you.

Although there are thousands of different permeations of how to grow your business, there are some basic rules of business that apply to everyone. These rules are not complicated.

One rule is that you have to believe that it’s possible. You have to believe that it’s possible for you to have what you want. (This is true for money and for everything in life.)

You have to believe that even if your current circumstances indicate more financial obligations than income… even if you don’t know “how” it’s going to happen… you have to believe that it is going to happen… now, easily.

You also have to believe in yourself. You have to believe in your capacity, your abilities, and your right to have what you want.

Let’s put this concept into context…

Let’s say you want to purchase something for your life or business… a car, a first class ticket, dinner out, your next hire, new office space, business coaching, apps or software, etc.

It’s something that for you represents a stretch and is a lot of money to you in your current circumstances.

Do you look at your current circumstances and say… “I can’t afford it. This is not prudent. This would be foolish. I need to wait until I have the money.”

This is how most of us were brought up to think… and I have to admit, wrapping my head around what I’m about to tell you was really hard for me at first. And many of you are may get pissed off by it because it flies in the face of your belief structure.

All my training and upbringing lead me to budgets, avoiding large amounts of debt, only spending what I had, etc.

But here’s the thing… as an entrepreneur…

When you choose to think this way, you are choosing NOT to believe in yourself.

When you think this way, what are you actually believing?

You are believing that if you spend the money you have, it will run out.

But moreover, and this is really important…

You are believing that you are not capable of creating that money or more money.

You are believing that you will let yourself down, that you don’t have the commitment or the skills, that this kind of money is not for you but for other people, that you’re not willing to do what it takes, that it will be too overwhelming or hard to earn that kind of money, that it won’t work out… and more.

Because if you believed in yourself and your abilities, you wouldn’t sweat using the money one iota.

If you chose NOT to purchase what you really desire, you are believing in your current circumstances and your current limitations.

That’s what you’ll get more of because you are making a decision that sets that outcome in motion.

Maybe there will be incremental steps forward, but this is not the way to quantum leap your income.

You need to believe in your ability to create and receive what you want, money or otherwise. This is a rule of business. (And of life.)

You could call this ground zero. Where you need to start.

Yet, belief alone is not enough. (Please read that twice.)

You also have to take action. You have to do the work, and when opportunities present themselves that you are being called to, you have to say yes to them quickly and take the next action. This is BELIEF IN ACTION.

This can be scary if the opportunity that you’re being called toward requires money that you currently don’t have or would be a big risk to your bottom line.

But this is a choice…

Do you choose to believe in your capability, your capacity, your dreams, and desires? Do you choose to believe in your commitment? Do you choose to believe that you will show up, take action, and do the work?

As an entrepreneur, you get to decide. You are in a unique position to create exactly what you want… but it takes choosing what you believe in.

What are you believing about money and yourself?

Amira

Choices In Who You Are Being

By Amira Alvarez A while back,  I found myself faced with a decision about whether to invest in my business. Actually, there were several decisions. One was a small investment that I wouldn't think twice about, but the other two were fairly large investments. When faced with these decisions, I started going to…
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A while back,  I found myself faced with a decision about whether to invest in my business.

Actually, there were several decisions. One was a small investment that I wouldn’t think twice about, but the other two were fairly large investments.

When faced with these decisions, I started going to that place… Do I spend the money? Is this the right decision? Am I being foolish? Can I get by without spending this?

Gadzukes!

Who was I being there?

Honestly, I was BEING someone who was afraid to spend the money, who thinks the money is going to run out, and who doesn’t believe in herself and her business.

Talk about teaching what you need to learn! (The Universe gives us these slaps in the face exactly when we need them. Oy!)

My indecision only lasted for a brief and fleeting moment. Nonetheless, I really needed to face that I wasn’t BEING who I needed to be to have the business I envision for myself.

This led me to ask myself…

Who was I going to be?

Someone driven by fear? Or a confident business woman who acted decisively?

I had to own that choice and make a powerful decision in favor of what I desire. And I did.

See… creating a successful business is largely about the choices you make.

Every day… there are a thousand choices.

Do I hire this person? Do I sign this contract? Do I spend this money? Do I go to this event?

Do I talk to this person? Do I place this ad? Do I charge this amount? Do I write this post?

These choices determine your results.

But let’s take a step back… what informs your decisions? What leads you to make the decisions that you do?

The answer is: who you are BEING.

Not everyone will make the same choices. That’s pretty obvious. Who you are, your values, beliefs, identity, experience, paradigms, world view, essence… all of this… leads you to make the decisions that you do.

Yet, the woman you ARE now has created the business you HAVE now.

If you want something different, you have to BE someone different.

If you are want more money, clients, free time, you need to step into BEING the woman who has that. This is critical to understand…Who you are BEING has to change.

You need to BE the kind of woman who makes the kinds of decisions that get the results you want.

Let me be clear… I’m not talking about changing your essential Self, the true essence of who you are.

Nope. That’s essential and it’s impossible to change that.

But, one layer up if you will, there’s a whole lot that’s open to being different. And guess what? You get to decide who you are going to be.

It’s a choice.

Change who you’re being and you’ll make different decisions… and this will lead to different results.

Ask yourself… what kind of results do you want? Then ask yourself, who do you need to be NOW to get those results?

 

Amira

PS: When there’s a disconnect between what you want and your results, the problem often lies in not being able to see how to step into being the person who gets different results. If you want different results, I can show you to step into being the woman who gets them. That’s part of my job as your guide and mentor. Yet, the first step is to choose to BE someone who gets help. DIYing your business is being someone who chooses the hard and slow path. Is this what you want? I think not. ;-)

Be the person who actualizes what she wants. Now’s the time. You can contact me here and I tell you how you can get started right now. Zero pressure. Zero obligation.

What do I focus on in my business?

By Amira Alvarez I often get asked, "What do I need to focus on in my business?" The answer is the same whether you're focused entirely on growing your business or doing it in addition to holding down a job. Here's why... You always need to be working on the next step that's…
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I often get asked, “What do I need to focus on in my business?”

The answer is the same whether you’re focused entirely on growing your business or doing it in addition to holding down a job.

Here’s why…

You always need to be working on the next step that’s in front of you. This seems obvious but go with me here…

Where most people go astray is they start seeing the multitude of tasks that are required and they think EVERYTHING HAS TO BE DONE NOW.

This will instantly put you into spin out, cause you mental and emotional friction, and slow you down. Why?

Because it’s impossible and you know it.

You can’t possibly make good on the unconscious commitment you just made to yourself when you looked at all the stuff that needs to get done and said: “I’m going to do this now, this week, or even this month.”

The possibility of being out of integrity with yourself then causes panic… and it is this panic or overwhelm that stops you or slows you down.

I see this happening all the time, at all stages of business.

In fact, this just happened with a client in a VIP day. We had laid out a plan, what the basic building blocks were to get her to a $5 million dollar business, which by the way, did not require a lot of bells and whistles… the best plans never do…

And then I saw her face shift from excitement to something else along the lines of trepidation.

What was going on?

She started unconsciously thinking everything had to be done now, this week, immediately upon getting home.

A quick reframe helped… Focus on the next step. That’s all you have to do. You do the next thing that’s in front of you and that’s it. When you’re done with that, the next step. You know what to do now and you just do it. No noise.

This can happen very quickly if you get out of your own way.

One step after another. Don’t overthink things. This is key to making the quantum leap.

Here’s a simple way forward to get you started…

1) Pick when you’re going to be working on your business. These are your working hours. Don’t stray.

2) Then choose what you’re focusing on now, during these work hours.

If you’re honest, you probably already know what you need to do.

If you’re confused about priorities, don’t over think it. Pick something and get started.

Caveat: There are particular needle-moving actions that many entrepreneurs and women in business avoid. This is where a mentor and coach is an essential asset.

3) Which leads us to… going and doing that one focused thing during the working hours you defined. And then the next thing and then the next thing.

If you work like this, you’ll be surprised how quickly you can make progress in your business no matter how many hours you actually have to dedicate to it and how it reduces the self-imposed stress.

This is not rocket science, but I can’t tell you how hard this can be for people.

It’s hard for a lot of reasons (programming, mindset, boundary issues, not understanding how to work with time, etc) BUT it’s NOT because anything is wrong with you. You’re not broken, so don’t get down on yourself if this is hard for you.

That said, don’t let yourself off the hook either. Keep showing up. One foot in front of the other.

Amira