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Is your work manipulating you?

By Amira Alvarez “Shouldn’t I be satisfied?”… you tell yourself.  And yet you’re not. There’s something gnawing at you, deep underneath the surface of all the tasks. There’s clearly more that you desire.  You know that what you want is bigger than simply picking your next revenue goal.  Maybe it’s more spaciousness that…
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“Shouldn’t I be satisfied?”… you tell yourself. 

And yet you’re not.

There’s something gnawing at you, deep underneath the surface of all the tasks.

There’s clearly more that you desire. 

You know that what you want is bigger than simply picking your next revenue goal. 

Maybe it’s more spaciousness that you want…? 

Maybe it’s a deeper love…? 

Maybe it’s a more meaningful life…?

Whatever it is that you truly want, the truth is… you’ll never find it if you keep distracting yourself with work… no matter how important that work is.

Work, for the Achiever, is the master manipulator. 

It seduces you into avoidance by giving you the gifts of success. 

When we accomplish something, we get that “hit” that says “woohoo, success!”

We get the appreciation, accolades, status, and financial remuneration.

All gifts. All great things.

But what if, while in pursuit of your next hit of success, work is keeping you from manifesting your deepest yearnings?

Work is the best form of distraction. The. Very. Best.

It’s required and therefore justifiable.
It proves that you’re needed.
It shows that you excel.
It demonstrates your brilliance.
And you’re really good at it.

Plus you get lots of kudos for it and the success that it often creates. What’s not to love about that status and those accolades?

Those were hard won, so we’re definitely not going to diminish them.

And yet… 

There’s got to be a different way to live life… one that allows you to create an exquisite life of beauty, truth, love, meaning, and success… without having to prove yourself all the time.

It’s time to stop running and start receiving so much more from life. 

Stay tuned for more on The Exquisite Life Plan.

Resentment: Is it you or them?

By Amira Alvarez “Resentment is always a lack of personal responsibility.” This is one of the reminder hacks I created for myself a long, long time ago. And I still use it.  Whenever I feel resentment, I now know it always indicates a lack of personal responsibility. There is something that I did…
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“Resentment is always a lack of personal responsibility.”

This is one of the reminder hacks I created for myself a long, long time ago.

And I still use it. 

Whenever I feel resentment, I now know it always indicates a lack of personal responsibility. There is something that I did or didn’t do that I’m blaming someone else for. 

A request I didn’t make.
A desire that I held back.
A communication that wasn’t clear.
A piece of information that I failed to share.
A doubt I had in another person.
A conditioned response I haven’t upleveled.
And the list goes on…

I am 100% ‘at cause’.

I never want it to be me but it is ALWAYS me. Without exception.

Once I get over myself and my need to be right and perfect, I’m so grateful for this recognition because it always leads me to FREEDOM.

When I put this together, it was like the sky opened up to me and one of the keys to the Universe dropped into my life.

I’ve been grateful ever since.

See…

When you are no longer willing to blame anyone else for your mood, your well-being, your experience, or your results…

When you choose to be personally responsible for ALL your outcomes (not just the good ones that you’re proud of, but ALL of them)… 

Then you are back in the driver’s seat as the brilliant creator that you are. 

You take back your creative agency and the control, if you will, over your life.

So if you’re blaming anyone for letting you down, if you’re resenting someone or something, ask yourself a better question…

What do I need to take responsibility for?

Goals vs Desires: A key difference when it comes to manifestation

By Amira Alvarez I was talking to a long-time private client this morning about what is next for her. It was a question I posed to her last week for her to contemplate.  Things are good, even great for her yet she’s ready for more. I can feel it. She can feel it.…
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I was talking to a long-time private client this morning about what is next for her.

It was a question I posed to her last week for her to contemplate. 

Things are good, even great for her yet she’s ready for more. I can feel it. She can feel it. But she doesn’t YET know what it is.

She came back to me today with an awareness that she hasn’t really “done goals” well in her life. She just focuses on doing good work and things unfold for her.

We unpacked this and I shared how this was both in alignment with how the Universe works to deliver the manifestations you desire and how it’s also incomplete.

Let me explain…

The Law of Compensation says that in order for you to receive greater compensation you must become bigger than your present place… bigger than who you’re being right now.

This requires growth. 

Growth requires that you become more.

When you have a standard of excellence for yourself in your work and you keep taking on more and doing it with excellence, you will naturally become more. 

You will grow yourself to be a bigger container for the good that you desire.

(This is true whether we’re talking about income, ease, love, spaciousness, exuberant joy, sexual energy, or whatever you desire.)

This is how you become open to receiving more.

And yet there’s often an unconscious missing piece…

DESIRE.

True desire, not lack disguised as desire, is a cause set in motion.

When you claim a true desire it calls you forward into the growth that the Law of Compensation asks of you.

It’s connected to YOUR truth – not a should.

It’s connected to YOUR abundance – not scarcity.

It’s connected to YOUR purpose – not an obligation.

Now let’s compare this to goals. 

I’m a big fan of them but only when you can hold them with an open heart and only when they start from a place of desire… not should, not scarcity, not obligation. 

Most people when they set a goal that doesn’t meet the “desire criteria” immediately feel a certain amount of constriction. 

This is actually a GOOD thing. It’s telling you that you’re off course, either slightly or to a large extent.

This is a forced goal, rather than a true desire.

In order to shift, it just takes tapping back into what you truly, really want.

What is that for you?

This is what we’ll be discussing in our Spirit of Wealth Retreat – what is rising up in you ready for a rebirth. #PhoenixRising

If you have interest in joining us for this in early October, please send me an email.

Decoding the Lived Experience of A Rich Life

By Amira Alvarez Most of us dream, then deny and never actually claim our rich life, that which we truly desire.  It seems unattainable or for someone else, not us. An editorial on the page of a magazine, a story we’ve read, a fantasy that calls us but is distant.  We fall into…
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Most of us dream, then deny and never actually claim our rich life, that which we truly desire. 

It seems unattainable or for someone else, not us. An editorial on the page of a magazine, a story we’ve read, a fantasy that calls us but is distant. 

We fall into it for a moment, dreaming, then denying… We say to ourselves, at the level of murmur, almost imperceptibly… We are not that woman. 

Or are we?

If the desire is felt, the supply is ready to appear. 

This is the Truth. The Law. Your desires are ready to appear. You are that woman.

Yet most women limit their power and deny what they are worthy of receiving.

  • How do we unfold life in a different way than our conditioned past would hold us to? 
  • How do we open the door of possibility long enough to make manifest what we truly want rather than what we’ve been limiting ourselves to? 
  • How do we receive all the beauty and truth that is ours as women?

It’s about getting out of the way and surrendering to all that life is offering to you. But that’s harder than it sounds. 

At every turn, there’s some kind of challenge that causes us to constrict and go back to the old way of pushing, striving, and forcing.

That’s the way that’s gotten us here. It’s the known. It’s trustable to some extent, but it doesn’t feel so good. You’ve got to admit that.

If you really want to tap into your power as a woman to live a truly wealthy life, you must step into the unknown and try a different way.  

And this is where a level of honesty with yourself comes in: What is your more? 

You’ve probably already achieved a level of success and status that you’re proud of. 

You’re probably already making pretty good money, and that’s not the thing that’s at your core, driving you.

You’ve probably already got so much.

But there’s more, right?

There’s something missing, something more that you’re wanting.

When you think about this, do me a favor, and don’t go into that old pattern of defending your achievements or cutting yourself down by saying, what I’ve done or who I’m being is not enough. 

That used to be enough to motivate you.

But that’s scarcity and fear talking and you know you’re ready for a different way. 

A way that’s gentler, kinder, and works with more grace.

A way that delivers without blowing out your nervous system, or leaving you lackluster and unmotivated.

A way that delights and includes all of you, even those little girl parts, the spirit that can’t be suppressed, that so wants to be fully realized in this world.   

Yes?

Then it’s time to have a LIVED EXPERIENCE of a truly rich life.

I’m so excited for the unfolding. More soon.